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is not so alien. Sometimes one is enthusiastic for the experience even before one feels sexy. This works for both male and female.
This whole subject of male and female sexuality has interested me my whole life.
I think the core problem with women and their sexuality is that too few women explore their own bodies enough to know what gets them going and what gets them off.
This is exacerbated both by a puritanical culture that tells you it is bad to touch yourself coupled with the busy busy nature of school and work life these days where everyone is too damn tired to be interested in exploration of sensuality and sexuality WITHOUT TIME CONSTRAINTS.
Add in that women follow each other like elephants in believing simplistic models of what men supposedly want (big tits, makeup on face, all the other crap women think men want in them) RATHER than following their inner bliss and developing a personality interesting enough to create one's own sexual paradise within and without- one DRIVEN by the women themselves rather than at the mercy of the first playa who can make her wet. Somehow, women expect that if only they snag the right playa type guy, the sex will be perfect, when in reality becoming more non sexually intimate with a compatible chemistry laden male is more important in developing greater and greater bliss over time. - is the problem lack of creativity in women too?
Is the problem also that men are not taught how to be desirable to women? That only the guys whose dads are irresponsible playa bastards become the ones trained to pile on the notches on the bedpost? This anonymous sex seems to rule in America more and more at the expense of slow, sensual sexual play with a couple who know each other well.
Women seem to play so many games in the dating world, holding back sex as a tool of manipulation, that it is not surprising the model that is emerging is one where the expert playas get all the action and the rest of the chump frustrated men become more and more beggars, not knowing what it is that is not allowing them to be more successful lovers and more sucessful men.
Women doing this also makes sex into something LESS THAN what it truly is, which is that sex is the divine infinite bliss of merging with our creator thru sharing our bodies with another or with ourselves. God knows I know of too few women who would even understand such concepts or admit to thinking them.
Another tack is what some woman has labeled the 'orgasm diet'. It involves some combination of Omega 3s, chocolate, protein (meats), daily vitamins with magnesium and zinc, and a few other items. Hey, throw in some pot or likker too! The diet sure makes me have more desire and feel looser and more sexy, and I'm a guy!
Also, avoid restaurant and prepared foods- they contaiin up to some combination of 15,000 compounds that do not have to be listed on the ingredient label- you can thank your government for allowing such illicit adulteration of the food supply, but blame your lack of libido on it, you can be sure.
The problem is not lack of a drug or other solution. For instance, mild electric shocks to the lower spine may trigger mechanical orgasms but they will not make a woman WANT sex or orgasm more.
A creative, open minded, uninhibited woman who eats healthy and is not afraid of being assertive does not have sexual problems, I can guarantee it!
