Letters to the Editor
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TAKE IT TO ITS NATURAL CONCLUSION
I think it ought to be Ok during divorce court for the woman to retroactively accuse her soon to be former husband of repeatedly raping her hundreds of times over the years, because after all, apparently he was not good enough to follow through and make a PERFECT marriage, therefore since he refused to buckle under her thumb and submit to her will, she is entitled to reparations from him.
This ought to put the criminal rapist in prison for several thousand years. Enough to teach him to never marry another American.
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By the way, I am sometimes mentally raped when I read some of the man hating responses on these boards.
Can I sue for torture? Who do I tell to stop?
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WELL ,YEAH
2 seconds away from being a sex offender.
This is exactly why I have a letter of consent that has to be signed, dated, with thumb print and notarized before I attempt to romance my way between the sheets.
So far, I haven't had much luck with the ladies.
Which is why more and more men no longer bother with spoiled rotten American feminist women, choosing to go foreign, remain celibate, or buy sex by the hour. They can have more power over men, but not without men's consent.
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Put yourself in the other one's shoes?
One time, a long time ago, I shared my room for a night with someone. We had been friends for a while, never more. During the night, my friend came over and lay on top of the covers on my bed, and began to get amorous. I went along with it for a while, but decided I really didn't like where it was going and asked to stop. That worked for a while, and I fell asleep. Later in the night, I woke up to find my friend under the covers with me, starting up again, and groping my crotch. I asked to stop, and when that didn't work, pushed and shoved and shouted. I endured only intense anger from that point on, albeit for days.
What do you think, mizbrinkley, do you think I should have charged her with rape?
Don't you think that women that think that men can perform as if they have a foolproof on/off switch should ask themselves if they could do so?
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To Anonymous:
You asked "do you think I should have charged her with rape?"
If you believed you were raped and wanted to press charges, yes.
That was not a complex question.
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No, but the other question was.
I believe I asked her to stop, and she couldn't.
You want people to look at situations from other than their own perspective, but you can't.
There are tons of very good reasons why men should be able to stop if they are told to, and most men do so. But it should never be dismissed something they can do easily.
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To Anonymous:
I don't see where you said in your earlier post "I believe I asked her to stop, and she couldn't."
However, I will address that now:
If you believed you were raped and wanted to press charges, yes.
If your friend couldn't stop, she'll have a decent defense. Apparently she has that sleep disorder where she has sex in her sleep without being conscious of it (see the article "Sexsomnia" at http://www.slate.com/id/2152021/).
Or could she not stop due to some other reason?
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I've been in this situation...
...so here are my thoughts. I was in my early 20's, engaged to a guy I adored. We were very sexually compatible, and careful about birth control. One weekend he had a death in the family that had us suddenly rushing out of town for the funeral, and very late that night he wanted comfort sex. No problem there, except we hadn't packed any condoms and in the rural area there was no where to go get any that late. I consented to sex on the condition that he withdraw before ejaculating, and he agreed. Having had sex as often as we had, I knew when he was getting close and when I recognized this I urged him to get out of me. He did not, only held on tighter. I pushed, I thrashed, I even tried yelling but he covered my mouth until he finished, inside me. He later tried to justify it by saying he needed to be close to me for the whole thing, to release his grief, whatever, but nothing could erase how violated I felt. He took control of my body and did something to it that I did not want.
This was the early 90's, so there was no Plan B yet. I tried to get emergency contraception, but as I said we were in a rural area of a conservative western state and most of the hospitals within a day's drive had religious affiliations that made them refuse to give emergency contraception. I did find one that would give it to me if I filed a rape report. Yes, I felt raped. But I also understood that this heretofore very decent, moral man did not think he had done anything that bad. He knew he had made a mistake in violating my trust, but to him my past consent and initial consent that evening meant that he did not violate my body. I was so traumatized by the whole incident that I just left him. When it turned out I was indeed pregnant, I communicated with him only to tell him that I was going to have an abortion and needed him to pay for it, which he did without hesitation.
I am now happily married. I told my husband all of this before we married, and he says he thinks what happened to me was rape. We have a son, and when he is old enough to understand these issues we will teach him that "no" means "stop" no matter when it occurs in the act of intercourse, and that not stopping would make him a rapist in deed if not in legal word.
Just my .02
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Not so black and white
This is a typical case of feminists wanting to have their cake and eat it, and absolve themselves and any and all personal responsibility, and be able to point the finger at a man.
I for one applaud the ruling. Because it applies to *BOTH* sexes. BOTH, people! Not just women. Those of you who claim men cannot be raped, do a google search and you'll very quickly see otherwise.