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• Friday, July 7, 2006 02:23 PM

  Positive reinforcement

  Hey it's great and we are animals by the way. I think it's so funny when people get all upset over being trained like some sort of animal, but firmly believe in evolution. I liked the Shamu article and have been using techniques like this on my husband ever since I was learning to train my dog, which kind of trained myself, I've got quite a quick temper, which never got me anywhere with the dog. I don't always get the results I want, but I don't get upset anymore when what I want doesn't work, quite yet. I've noticed he does it to me too, like hugging me and saying thank you every time I do the dishes(because I loathe that chore)and we are conscious to always thank each other for doing any household chore, any errand or making meals. Now there is no more griping over who does what and when which is where many grievences in a relationship come from and a lot of accusations of you don't do this or that and scorekeeping. Plus who wants to come home to some pissed off spouse who's bitter you left your wet towel on the floor. Many people avoid going home, grow apart from their spouse because of anger over stupid shit. I've watched relationships deterioate over the small things, that led to a big thing like an affair. Of course the flirty co-worker or aquaintance with no grievences against you is more attractive if when you go home you've got to hear a laundry list of complaints dealing with the mendacity of life and all the crap you don't do right or at all.

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