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I haven't had the chance to read the actual blogs yet, just your round-up Rebecca, but as a flaming liberal and ardent feminist I'm baffled as to how giving blow jobs has turned me into a subserviant and brainwashed idiot.
The truth is, as a generally orally fixated person I just naturally tend to love giving head as well. Granted, if the guy hasn't showered recently I doubt I'd do it but that has rarely ever been a problem. It doesn't even enter my mind that the guy pees out of the thing since all I'm getting is the cum. Oh yeah, I swallow as well. Less mess, less fuss. I didn't even realize NOT swallowing was an option until I was 27 and listening to some high-maintenance women talking about needing a napkin to spit in. I would think the act of holding it in your mouth, then letting it travel back out onto a towel or something would actually increase the contact with the cum as opposed to just letting it go down the throat as it comes. And no, I don't deep throat so it has nothing to do with that. As for pulling your head away as the guy comes, that also seems pointless because now its getting everywhere I probably don't want it to. Once again, less mess, less fuss and I've rarely tasted bad cum.
Also, since I've only achieved coming thru intercourse a few times like a good 70% of women in every sex study I've seen, I'm a stickler when it comes to having a guy go down on me since thats my preferred way of coming. So how could I possibly expect a guy to perform for me while saying that I find the act submissive if done to him? Besides most guys I've encountered love to eat a girl out. Why not reciprocate?
I've been told since college that I'm pretty damn good at it as well. I actually learned as a teen from reading a Cosmo article in the 80's (that my conservative mother actually had in her closet) titled something like "how to make love to a man's body" and only one suggestion I used early on brought on a negative response. They advised to gently rake the penis with your teeth and I only tried that once when the guy practically jumped out of bed with the slightest contact with my teeth!
I never even saw a penis until my freshman year at college but it was a pretty natural thing for me to get good at using all the techniques Cosmo suggested. The only thing that has ever turned me off is if a guy has pushed my head down. If he starts doing that I pretty much won't go down. Otherwise, I'm usually the one initiating it. 69 is kind of a pain though so I'd prefer to do the act one at a time. Bad angles and too hard to keep at it if I'm starting to come.
Oh, and I'm still single btw. My other blow job loving friend and I always joke that we'd offer our husbands blowjobs and a sandwich during half time yet men seem to marry the women who won't give head then bitch about it. My married friends never, ever give their husbands blow jobs. Everytime I meet up with them I suggest they go home to their husbands and give them a nice blow job. Their response is that I'll stop doing so once I get married. Maybe thats why I never married!
