Letters to the Editor
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That's stupid, Al.
If you have a kid with a womanizer, and then he disappears, your chance of raising that kid to a healthy reproductive age and putting him in a life position where he has access to genetically valuable women is a lot lower. Humans need vastly more assistance in raising their kids than any other mammal. It's the *only* good reason why women put up with the shit from men that they do; otherwise we'd do like chimps, where "fathers" of individual babies aren't important at all and it's more like all the guys kind of hang around and give occasional assistance to any female with a child. And in most human societies, the reproductive fitness of an adult human male with no money or social status is incredibly low, and that's what happens when a guy has no dad, in most societies throughout history. So a womanizing man who walks out on his son might be giving his son womanizing genes, but no woman is going to *choose* the son if he grows up to have low social status, so it really doesn't matter what a horndog his genes make him.
I mean, the whole thing's infinitely more complex than that, but I've never even seen the most oversimplified evo-bio argument try to make the argument that women actively *look* for womanizing men. It's really not to a woman's advantage unless she lives in a matrilineal society where she will get most of her emotional and physical support from her kin, not the guy she sleeps with. It's just less to her disadvantage than it is to a man if his wife screws around and sticks him with raising a kid that isn't his.
No, the explanation's much simpler. Lots of women are attracted to the same traits, either because culture tells them those are attractive traits or because biology has selected for those traits. Men who have lots of women who are attracted to them have much more opportunity to sleep around than men who don't. So women don't go after womanizers because they're womanizers; women go after men because they're hot, and hot men have more opportunity to be womanizers.