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i don't know what's up with "a women," but the fact remains that ms. traister did misrepresent the article, in the typical broadsheet rush to snark.
there's nothing about balloon fetishes or mute submissives in the article, and the actions the author recommends are not "tricks," they're attempts to compromise or make at least some sort of offering to the woman who's bothered by her partner's viewing of porn. who knows -- the actions recommended by columnsit might actually start a healthy dialogue. i've seen similar advice from dan savage and other sex columnists.
please, broadsheet, stop with the snark and do some actual reporting.