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And now we come to the crux of the matter. It's all well and good to have boundaries and they should be respected. But it's a good idea for the boundary-setter to examine their boundaries to see if they are reasonable.
To quote Dan Savage: "Any model that doesn't come with oral sex as a standard feature should be returned to the lot."
I'm perfectly happy to respect your boundaries as long as you respect my right to get out because of them.