"Butt-kick for your life" -- sheesh. But the currently fashionable celebrations of neo-Victorian femininity need to be countered; Fuller's warning about women "opting out" and not being able to find a way back in is an important one, not deserving of mockery. Try not to, um, throw the baby out with the bathwater, okay?

Yes, you can have it all. Right now I have two healthy, well-adjusted kids in college, I've had a fulfilling career throughout their years at home, and I'm still very happily married to their father. But let's not pretend that it's easy. Time is a finite commodity, and the time any parent, female or male, spends at work is not spent with the children and vice versa. "Having it all" doesn't include attending a cocktail party and a youth soccer game at the same time. We all have to prioritize, and I don't think we do women any favors by implying that if they're having trouble with the juggling, they just must not have the right attitude.

Sounds like a great read, and important too, but there's a pitfall to thinking that 'attitude' is everything. Attitude is important, but from my experience "economics" is everything; If the workplace or whatever conspires against women (or men for that matter) 'having it all' than what can you do, you only have so much energy to give to life; if 'good economies' don't coincide with times in life when you are ready for the big push it's hard.

. It's very important to have a good economy upon graduation; if you live in the wrong area for you talents..etc. The women I know who 'have it all' (and for whom it worked out but not without its struggles) made GOOD well-though-out CHOICES along the way and didn't panic in bad times or let life's inevitable problems get them down too much: quality decision making that's the key from what I see. And for those who want it all, that means having a spouse who (on all psychological levels) wants you to have it all too. Everyone needs a cheerleader, a mentor. A partner who sabotages you (especially subconsciously) is a big problem. And luck, luck is so important. No one I know who 'succeeded' didn't have a spate of good luck somewhere along the line.

for you to completely ignore anyone who writes yet another self-help book?

noone can have it all. not man nor woman.

many men like me wish more women would back down from this absurd premise and have time to relax and enjoy life.

is all the prozac chomping not enough proof how absurd modern life has become?

The books sounds like an update of Helen Gurley Brown's "Having It All" from the 1980s.

Sometimes a job is just a job - not necessarily a fulfilling, self-actualizing career, but, you know, work.