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My beloved and I met through eHarmony. For the one quality he valued most in a mate, he chose a sense of humor. The quality I listed as most valuable was kindness. He got a funny woman with a pretty big kind streak; I got the nicest man alive with a great sense of humor. To read the studies quoted in Broadsheet and the (pretty disturbing) comments posted to these articles, you'd think he and I weren't of our own genders, or weren't human or something. Imagine! A man looking for something other than a hot body or a conduit for children, and a woman looking for something besides prestigious accomplishments or a big wallet!
I don't have anything to add to the debate except my own profound relief over finding someone who's as far outside the apparent norm as I am, and to suggest that women who are smart and funny not settle for guys who are so easily threatened. Yeah, you might wind up alone, but isn't that so much better than winding up with an insecure dumbass?
