Letters to the Editor
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Al?
Shut the fuck up. We've all heard about your intellectual accomplishments and hot, smart wife and now know exactly what kind of body style you prefer. Could you please take your sexist, homophobic comments somewhere else? Maybe inflict them on this wife you love so much you've equated her with "better pussy."
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geeze, it's always about that giant man-hating club, those evil wicked women, LOL
>>Supression of emotions
cosmicmojo, matt - do you *really* think that women aren't part of the problem when it comes to socialising young boys - news flash, they're a major part of it. Afraid to say that perpetuation of sterotypes and repression is a equal opportunity employer.
-- blackpaw >>
I never said women aren't part of the problem, and it's putting extreme words into people's mouths that makes you so hard to have a respectful dialogue with.
I think a lot of "brainwashing" about how we're supposed to act based on our gender comes from culture and society at large, men and women. There's no big club of half the population sitting in a room plotting against the other half, and the constand need to blame that other half is indicative of serious breaks with society if one doesn't already realize there's no hate club full of half the population.
We as individuals have to look at the choices we make and how they influence culture's expectations as a whole.
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boys careers
As the mother of two boys, I have to be perfectly honest in that I am encouraging them to go for careers where they can make money (I'm speaking as an art-school grad). I want them to be creative and well-rounded too, but when my 13 yr. old says he wants to draw comic books for a living, I cringe and steer him toward owning a comic book company. (a silly example, but you get my point).
The reason is, because if they marry and have children, there is a high probability that their wives might want to take time out of the working world to spend with the baby, and my sons might have to be primary wage-earners.
Of course some men stay at home too, and some women don't want time off from their careers, and it generally takes two incomes to make it today, but I'm hoping that I can give them a realistic look at the world of work that awaits them, so that they're not dumbfounded when it happens.
About the war on boys, the only thing I have to say about that, there are pretty major differences between the genders. I am surrounded by the male gender in my life, with my sons, their friends, and my husband, and I am always shocked when I spend time with girls of the same age.
What the girls' moms don't seem to understand is the vast difference in communication between boys and girls. This needs to be respected. Men and boys have their own styles of communication and their own areas of interest.
When I drive the 13-yr.old girls in my son's class on a field trip, I learn so much about the social goings-on in their lives, who wore what, who has a crush on whom, what teachers they like, etc. They're pretty chatty, very socially aware, and much more mature. Their interest tends toward female pop stars and celebrity gossip.
Boys of the same age, pretty much converse in short sentences with a minimal amount of talking needed. Pulling information from them is like pulling teeth. Their interests tend toward anime and video games.
Generalizations, sure. But I'm here in the trenches and this is my observation.
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reading and movie choices
and I don't think that it's so much that boys don't want to read or watch stories about girls, but that boys want stories with VIOLENCE.
That's what really gets them going.
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Divamom
Glad to know it's "more mature" to discuss "who wore what" than not yapping on and on about such trivial shit. At least when the boys are discussing video games they're discussing something which teaches them problem solving skills, even if they're not aware of that at the moment. That seems to me to be a step above "Britney Spears looked, like, sooooooo slutty the other night on MTV." "Yeah, I know, right?"
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Al's adventures & djbollman, mystery man
Al 'likes smart women, as long as they have good bodies'. Gee, Al, thanks...how validating for smart women everywhere. Brains are apparently just a happy bonus to the real base criteria for Al...a hot body.
Al also equates his wife with 'better pussy'. I'm sure she would feel very flattered - why don't you ask her, Al?
Hilariously, Al actually moved to an area primarily as a better pussy dating strategy...can't you just see him with his tatty little notebook and neighborhood maps, plotting his pussy offensive like all the other losers and parasites do?
What a shallow, pretentious asshole.
djbollman, quit trying to hide under other names. Your writing style always gives you away, as does your constant foaming at the mouth about evil feminists. If you must inflict your tirades on us, please at least have the guts to sign your name.
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maturity
I meant that they are more aware of the social goings-on, more interested in talking about sex, and are more interested in the older boys at the school, because they think the ones their own are are pretty dweeby... mostly because boys at that age are into things like anime and video games.
Physically they mature faster too. Which is probably why the custom of pairing a younger woman with a slightly older man came about.
Also why they used to marry girls off at 13. (too risky to have them around!)(sarcasm implied.) Some of them are fully developed, menstruating, and could be mothers.
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Al
"I go to sleep at night sometimes solving equations in my head. My wife, who has the slightly autistic abilities of a composer, finds this astonishing"
I dount anyone actually finds it astonishing that you manage 2+2=4 as you go to sleep.
Then again, judging by the rest of your post. Perhaps it is astonishing you manage that much after all. If you are actually married, please send your wife my deepest symapthies.