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Friday, January 13, 2006 12:00 AM

Do the kids get mom's name, or dad's? How about alternating

One writer explains how she and her husband chose their daughters' last names.

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  • Friday, January 13, 2006 03:24 PM

    What's in a (last) name? Not much

    First - "Why? Well, we're feminists, but the fun kind. Not the type who sing dirge-y folk songs and talk about our personhood; the type who really do try to be fair to each other while maintaining a sense of humor and respect for difference."

    Uh-huh. I'm learning not to take too seriously anyone who starts out explaining what kind of feminist they're not. Or who can't describe themselves without taking lame little digs at imagined others.

    As for the naming thing, it's not a new idea but a variant on the "boys get his, girls get hers" solution to the problem. I like the simplicity of the "everyone gets a new (invented) name" that friends of mine came up with.

    But really, who cares? I know at least one step-family where every single member (2 adults, 2 kids) has a different last name. What's in a (last) name? Not much.

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