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excellent points jch
>>>Obviously, the entire four billion dollars would not used for background checks. As is stated in the article, the new provisions of VAWA would require the match-making agency to do background checks
>>> It does not appear that this new law would require any significant governmental funding.
>>>this should actually limit the strain on taxpayers by hopefully screening out the abusers and thereby reducing the number of women who will need to go to the police and the courts to obtain protection.
>>>The $4 billion that will be spent under VAWA will go towards grants to shelters, agencies, police departments, and family courts.
sorry about that horrible title I posted, too long.
Feel free to delete, ed.
>>>They are about to be living with a mercenary -- a woman who marries a stranger for economic improvement. >>>
You act as if these men are forced to buy wives. If a mercenary wife who married a stranger for economic improvement is as bad as you say, why do the men choose to marry them?
csomicmojo. Nobody asked you to feel anything. Certainly not on the basis of anyone's obesity. And who said my friend got mad? I didn't. I just don't have any general knowledge of the situation, I just offered a specific instance I happened to be aware of. Sorry to upset you.
I did sense a tone that we were supposed to feel sympathy for the guy you know.
And, in fact, I do. But not for the eventul abandonment. I think we all know what it feels like to be lonely. It does hurt. And we've all had moments when we thought we'd be alone forever. And we've all been rejected and hurt. And it does hurt. It's real. I have sympathy for that, we all do 'cause we've all been there.
I just meant that his hurt at her treating him like a commodity is unfounded because he treated her like a commodity first. It's sorta a sad karma thing.
I think being alone is very sad and I wish everyone in this world had love, compantionship, lust, sex, help, respect, etc. But the path to that blissful state is not through a mail order mate.
You said he was very hurt...
You know, it never really occured to me before, but my friend (Malcolm) was taken away from his parents at a very young age - they were drug addicts or something, I forget, anyway he was taken away by family services, and raised in foster homes, several of them, probably never stayed in one foster family for more than a couple years - and I suppose he was well aware that his foster 'parents' were only taking care of him for the money - not out of love or anything, so he was himself a commodity, used for financial gain, and disposed of when the situation was no longer profitable. Although he never claimed abuse (not to me)I don't ever remember him having anything good to say about any of these foster 'parents' I guess his experience with his mail-order bride reflected that reality. Hmmm...
was writ: Because they are intimidated why grown-up women who want to be equal partners rather than submissive decorations?
Because American women make the very worst wives on earth..?
Why does John Collier's "His Monkey Bride" spring to mind..?
... background checks should go both ways.
I have never heard such narrow-minded bigotry in all my life, as I have in the responses to this article.
I am one of those "mail-order" husbands. I met my Philippine wife through a column and we have been happily married for 13 years. We have two beautiful children, live in a nice suburban neighborhood and are both professionals. Neither she or I are a "commodity". Is every man who meets a lady through the Washington Post Personals, eHarmony.com or Match.com "exploiting" women and treating them like "commodities"? Why is meeting through a foreign introduction service any different? I am insulted by the innuendoes and stereotypes that are spewed by people who know *nothing* about the men and women who meet thruogh these methods. YOU are the ones who need to grow up and get a life.
Much of the initial coverage about Fort Hood turned out to be wrong. Is there anything wrong with that?
The accountability imposed by another country for the CIA's kidnapping and torture reveals much about our own.
Fox News' morning show plays to type, talking about whether Muslims in the Army should face "special debriefings"
The survivor and author is upset about comparisons some on the right are making to genocide
219 Democrats and one Republican join in favor of the legislation, which passed by a narrow margin
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