Letters to the Editor
FemmeJr
Published Letters: 61 Editor's Choice: 8
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Sorry folks, bisexual men are not the tooth fairy.
[Read the article: I'm a bisexual Christian husband and father]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]For a site with users who claim to be so open-minded and progressive, I can't believe how many ignorant responses to the LW there are up here.
I won't claim to be a health care professional or any other expert. All I know is my experience, and as a lifelong resident of a major urban center with friends from all worlds, I can say that I've known many bisexual men who have had monogamous relationships with women, either long-term, short-term or marriages.
I guarentee you that there are probably more bi men out there then we realize... the reason being that it's much more socially acceptable for women to experiment with the same sex than it is for men. When women hook up, they're "hot." When a men hook-up their "sissies." We don't need statistics to prove that stereotype.
To the LW: I don't believe that your gay... you're just coping with feelings much later than you ought to have, and I think you will get through it. Just remember that if you're committed to monogamy, then you will get through this with your wife.
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@catnmus & jjm152
[Read the article: Purity balls keep dads faithful?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Catnumus: Wait... you didn't know that girls are supposed to keep themselves chaste so they'll be so fresh and pure for a guy whose had dozens of partners before they got married?
::Snicker::
I agree that this is a complete double-standard, one that is rarely acknoweledged. If abstinece was really about protecting all young people from STDs and unplanned pregnancy, all abstinence rhetoric wouldn't be aimed at girls exclusively. No what this is really about brainwashing girls into adopting a "Madonna-Whore" view of sex.
JJM152: I think the word "creepy" is entirely appropriate in this context. There's a big difference between being concerned for your child's health and well-being, and having an unhealthy obsession with her sexuality.
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How much you wanna bet that a lot men with "sexless" wives are bloated couch potatoes?
[Read the article: The monster snoring on the Serta]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I read the article last night and when the author was talking about how he and his married guy friends were drooling over pics of Ashley Dupre, I was wondering: "And what the hell do you guys look like? I'm sure you don't look like a mint condition muscle car anymore, buddy."
And also, how do these men expect their wives to be attracted to them when these men act more like sons than lover? "My wife organizes my social calendar, my wife irons my shirts, I wouldn't able to tie my shoes without her" Ha! After running a man's life and taking sole responsiblity for everything, maybe the women are too damn exhausted to put out!
That being said, the article did raise some compelling points, namely, that people expect a lot more out of marriage now than they did in the past, when marriage was viewed as an institution... which it is. And institutions are not sexy.
I'm also surprised that the subject of menopause was not discussed. While this certainly isn't the case all the time, I know plenty of women in my family who suffered tremendously from loss of libido after menopause. This is just as stressful to the women as it is to their partners because they want to satisfy their partner and be the sex kittens they were at 25... their body just doesn't respnd the same way. However, I would hope that a marriage would have a lot more going for it than just sex by the time the couple is in that stage of life.
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How about my quote of the day?
[Read the article: Quote of the day]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This morning, my boyfriend mentioned the delegate count and the following conversation took place:
BF: "She's going to try to get the Michigan and Florida votes counted."
Me: "Oh when the hell is Hitler going to give it up!"
BF: "Did you mean Hilary?"
Me: "Yeah, Hilary."
BF: "You just said Hitler."
Me: "Oops. My bad."
After a chuckle on both our parts, I clarified that despite my slip I don't think Hilary is a Hitler... but what disturbs me is that she doesn't feel she has to earn the presidency; she think she is owed the presidency. And it shines through everything she says and does.
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@ Sandra M.
[Read the article: Ah, the mysterious female orgasm]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This study pretty much verifies what the neurologist Louann Brizendine already discussed in the book "The Female Brain." What the study means by "comfort" is that in order for a woman to achieve orgasm, they have to be able to let their guard down and be relieved of stress in order to full engage themselves in the sex act.
In the Female Brain, Brizendine explains that the hormones a woman releases during orgasm allow her mind to clear so that she feels more relaxed and can simply let go... instead of having the one million things she has to do that day racing through her head!
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@ Teensy
[Read the article: Abuse me, abuse my pet]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Long-time readers of Broadsheet are familiar with the trolls and don't bait them, but someone reading for the first time (who doesn't know better) inevitably gets outraged at the usual suspects and thus fuels the fire.
Personally, as much as the trolls annoy me to hell, I'm glad they're here to remind us that misogyny is alive and well.
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(Cont.) - Restraining Order for Pets
[Read the article: Abuse me, abuse my pet]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I like that the restraining order is extended to pets, as well as to the women and their children. I'm sure that their are men who will try to (for example) leave the woman's dead cat on her doorstep as a way to keep her fear alive. By extending the order, these acts of intimidation will be penalized accordingly.
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@ Teensy
[Read the article: Abuse me, abuse my pet]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]What's that flea-like noise in our ears? Eh... probably nothing;-)
Thanks for posting that New York Times article a few posts back; it was a great read!
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I think prenups should be mandatory, actually.
[Read the article: Yours in holy "manimony"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I know this is easier said than done, and certainly financial circumstances can change dramatically over the course of years, but I think prenups make sense. Prenups are agreed upon while the couple is in love and hoping for the best... as opposed to divorce settlements, which are drawn out when the couple wants to rip each other's throats out. Prenups would save the legal system and the couple a lot of time and agony.