Everyone loves to talk about how the abortion debate should be framed. When some women in New York a few years ago started wearing and selling t-shirts that said "I had an abortion" they were roundly panned, and criticized for not taking the stance that abortion is shameful yet something that needs to be legal.

I think that this apologetic and cringing stance may be the wrong way to go, and Lamott stood up for the same idea. She sat there, a woman who has bennefitted from an abortion, and decided that she was sick of making believe that this was all hypothetical, for women nothing like the women present at the panel discussion. She knew, as we women all know, that many women there had had abortions. So she called them all on their hypocrisy. Maybe all those male panelists would whistle a different tune if they knew how many women in their lives used abortion to get control of their lives back. As for the women anti-choicers, well, as someone wise once told me: if you're a woman, it can happen to you too.

Maybe the next time I sit a a dinner debate with my extended family, my female relatives and I can shut my pro-life brother up by telling him how many of us have had abortions, and how it has made our lives and our children's lives better.

Newsflash: Everyone finds youth attractive, men and women. I've always been amazed at the size of many men's egos when it comes to going after younger women, but anyone who doesn't think it's the money that makes some young women reciprocate is delusional. The converse is true- Martha Stewart could find a younge , beautiful Russian man willing to marry her and her riches a la Donald Trump, but I'm sure she prefers her dignity.

I was excited to see "Diary" because I'd heard all about Tyler Perry and I really loved the Barbershop movies and have become interested in African American Cinema. But I thought the movie was all over the place. It was really, really implausible and sappy and the main character was very unsympathetic. I loved the madea character, of course, although it seems sort of like a stock character nowadays. Maybe Tyler's stuff works better on stage.

This is going to sound elitist, but since when do members of the educated, wealthy class with small families have to worry about losing power to prolific reproducers? I'd say that history shows quite the opposite of what this man is arguing. Educated, wealthy people tend to hold power and enjoy higher standards of living, and feminism and low birthrates are related to these.

I don't fight for abortion rights so that a woman can kill a full term baby under any circumstances. Women need options and control, but sympathizing with infanticide when they don't (or won't- we don't know) have them is not a position I want anything to do with.

What about all those gated communities where people sign homeowner association contracts and end up losing their homes because the neighbors don't like the color they paint their homes? Couldn't Monaghan's city be like that?

Shooting oneself in the stomach or asking a boyfriend or husband to beat you up- or letting him say this as a creative defense for abuse- are not valid ways of dealing with lack of choice under any circumstances. The measuring stick can be what a reasonable person would do, and a reasonable woman would not dither about a pregnancy, or even be forced to carry a pregnancy to term, only to shoot herself in the stomach right before giving birth. Infanticide is not something any of us pro-choicers should ever try to explain away or excuse.

Early pregancy is the time for abortion, with exception for extreme medical conditions. I don't think that we pro-choicers should have any qualms about taking this position and expecting prospective parents to adhere to it.

Whiny, petulant, burdened with a heavy sense of entiltlement? Or just so fricking cheap that they are willing to look like world class assholes in front of the world, and their very own children?

Better reproductive health for women has led to more control over our own fertility. Now these princes are miffed that they are actually going to have to control their own fertility because those darn DNA tests make it so hard to turn your back on your own baby.

Men, like women, have vetos over their own bodies. Children have a right to support of both parents. Any other viewpoint is so blatantly illogical and unfair that it really unbelievable that their are men out there who aren't ashamed of expressing it. How do these men come to exist?