The Kiev ain't what it used to be? Damn. That's disappointing.

Other than that. Yes, be honest, letter writer, in your dealings with new women. Say, "I'm separated, not divorced yet". It's easy, and people do understand this concept. There may be someone you want to go out with who will not want to date a separated guy, that's OK. Call her later, when it's final, if she's still on your mind.

My marriage ended about 3 years ago. I dated while separated, and was always clear about my status. It was fine. I've been divorced less than a year, and things haven't changed a lot between the separation phase and the divorce. Yes, it was an unusually long divorce process. People get this, it's not hard to understand.

Just be honest, it's better than losing someone because you held back.

When I take the MBTI I come up introverted if I'm being honest, but I can score extroverted if I feel it's necessary.

Isn't the MBTI just a step above horoscopes, really? I mean, unless you're applying for a sales job, why wouldn't you be qualified as an I, assuming your experience and credentials line up for the position? It sounds a little paranoid to think that the I's will all get passed over.

There have been a lot of great letters over the years. Standout topics: Writers who complain that they're beautiful, brilliant and misunderstood. Writers whose spouse/partner is sexually withholding or deficient and should the writer stay in the relationship. Struggles with addictions. Llamma ranching.

Replies: There was one a few years ago that had Cary joining the underground and eating good cheese in the current political climate. I think there were a couple that touched on people you meet in your life, some of whom are massively significant but aren't meant to be in your life for long.

And I may think of more, this is off the top of my head.

You should absolutely start a band.

I did wonder about this:

"dull-gray cubicles and nasty, mint-green walls. The people I work with, while nice, are not in any way relatable to me. I view them as mindless robots who do whatever society tells them to do."

Starting a band might give you something to care about more than the job and people you work with. But whatever it is that makes you unable to relate to those people will still be with you after you start a band (and most likely keep your day job.)

The problem lies elsewhere. Maybe you need a different job, with different people. Or are most other people mindless robots? You'll have to figure out where that comes from before you'll be happy, most likely.

The music world is as full of mindless robots as the corporate world. Playing in clubs for the last 20+ years I've found people to be the same everywhere in a lot of important ways.