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Thursday, November 20, 2008 12:27 PM

"P.S. This is all tongue in cheek people, honestly, relax, take a deep breath."

No it isn't. You wanna get a reaction from the guys who feel this way. In a sense, you want to hurt them. Probably because you were hurt. That's cool.

At the end of the day though, it is the young men who are disenchanted with the status quo that have destroyed societies in the past. The proverbial "Young men leaning against the wall" with no attachment to the system. In a sense, we all live by the grace of young men's apathy. When the apathy stops, life as we know it disintergrates. As the financial crisis worsens, and the education gap between boys and girls grows, I wouldn't be too smug about one's position.

Thursday, November 20, 2008 11:57 AM

@likelife

"Go take a long walk off a short bridge."

That should read, "Take a long walk off a short pier."

Thursday, November 20, 2008 11:22 AM

Don't Play Games?

Baloney. People have been giving the same "just be yourself" advice since time immemorial. It has never worked, because men and women tend to want certain traits in a mate, and the opposite sex attempts to fit that desire. If being yourself worked, the multi-billion dollar cosmetic industry would disolve. Cosmetic surgery wouldn't be a medical practice. Invest in yourself, take care of yourself, but don't think "being yourself" is getting you anywhere. And for the guys, the older you get, the easier it gets as long as you don't fall into loserdom.

Thursday, November 20, 2008 10:55 AM

Reminds me of a Best-of-Craigslist Post I Once Saw

The advice given to guys was fast and furious:

(Excerpted)

"14. Don’t be afraid to tell people to “Fuck off” when need be. It is an important skill to acquire. As they say, speak your piece, even if your voice shakes.

15. Acquire empathy, good interpersonal skills, and confidence. Learn to read body language and non-verbal communication. Don’t just concentrate on your vocational or technical skills, or you’ll find your wife fucking somebody else.

17. Don’t speak ill of your wife/girlfriend. Back her up against the world, even if she’s wrong. She should know that you have her back. When she needs your help, give it. She should know that you’ll take her part.

18. Don’t cheat on your wife/girlfriend. If you must cheat, don’t humiliate her. Don’t risk having your transgressions come back to her or her friends. Don’t do it where you live. Don’t do it with people in your social circle. Don’t shit in your own back yard.

19. If your girlfriend doesn’t make you feel good about yourself and bring joy to your life, fire her. That’s what girlfriends are for.

20. Don’t bother with “emotional affairs.” They are just a vehicle for women to flirt and have someone make them feel good about themselves. That’s the part of a relationship they want. For you it is a lot of work and investment in time. If they are having an emotional affair with you, they’re probably fucking someone else.

21. Becoming a woman’s friend and confidant is not going to get you into an intimate relationship. If you haven’t gotten the girl within a reasonably short period of time, chances are you won’t ever get her. She’ll end up confiding to you about the sexual adventures she’s having with someone else.

22. Have and nurture friendships with women."

Tuesday, November 18, 2008 07:51 PM
Original article: A woman > her hymen

Luc the French

Vous vous allez comment Luc. j'etudie le francais a le alliance Francais de San Francisco. Vous vivez à Paris?

Tuesday, November 18, 2008 04:36 PM
Original article: A woman > her hymen

When does a premarital lie count?

I don't know the in's and out's of French civil law. Nor do I think that virginity confers some moral high ground. But if it is the case that the wife was dishonest about an aspect of her culture that even she acknowledges is important to her culture, why is that unimportant? Does a divorcee get financial benefits that a person receiving an annulment would not be entitled to? Does he have to support her, pay her money...blah blah blah? I think it the issue may be a more important than the tone of this article suggests.

Thursday, November 13, 2008 10:23 AM
Original article: Pregnant man preggers again

In the tranny world...

gender is not a biological state, but a "deeply held belief" that one belongs to a particular gender. Otherwise, this post would have to read:

Bearded Lady Preggers Again

My understanding is that you have to stop taking T.

Wednesday, November 12, 2008 03:36 PM

Tell him.

He has a right to know. The Materalistic advice in this piece is that "you make actually be hurting him." Baloney. The real point of the piece is to make sure she is not held accountable for her actions. If she fucked you over, you can both seek revenge and do the right thing by giving her up to her husband. Who the hell wants a promiscuous mother in the household anyway?

Wednesday, November 12, 2008 03:18 PM

"... to me, a fetus signifies abortion..."

That's revolting. Seek psychological help. Please.

Tuesday, November 11, 2008 08:11 PM

Ah, the glories of slipping into middle age...

huh tracy?

Monday, November 10, 2008 02:41 PM
Original article: Disney girl gone wild?

apology?

what the hell for. she has nothing to apologize for. its her goddam body. if she wants to take private photos of it for her boyfriend, its none of your goddam business. the fuck that stole them, then posted them, should be in jail.

Friday, November 7, 2008 08:27 PM
Original article: Spitzer gets off

I am generally against either...

Johns or Prossys getting busted. But even I, from my masculinist perspective, have to say that this is outrageous and an terrible injustice. Two people have committed suicide because they were federally charged and/or convicted of being prostitutes (or a madam.) This is outrageous. This is so obviously unfair that it warrants political action. This is the sexism, plain and simple.

Tuesday, November 4, 2008 10:30 AM

Please stop f*cking your television

it's just weird

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