Letters to the Editor

• You choose your life, I choose mine.

  [Read the article: Working women's wife envy]
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  Then do it yourself or shut up. How hard is that, Brightstar? I mean, if my wife gives me flack about how I diaper the baby, that can be her job. I don't think AKA Smith is being unreasonable to say, "Either I do it my way, or you do it." Would it make a difference if I said I think this is more of a woman thing, with women having more of an opinion about how things are done around the house than men? Geez.

  When a woman asks that a guy do something better, particularly on what she considers HER (now home AND work) turf, often he capitulates. That says something about men and power dynamics in marriage, not all men, but most. Regarding the power dynamics, I choose to remain quite single because I do not need an overseer, bully, or police sergeant lording over my life. that, or i can be like you and tell HER to do it, and you know, she would respect me (and all men like this) more for it (something most men do not get).

  Also, in relation to your brother, no one knows what is going on in someone else's marriage, so butt out.

  This attitude is why there is no such thing as traditional family support in the USA, everyone for themselves. I grew up in a first gen European family, blood is thicker than water and if some member of my family is suffering, it is contingent upon those around him to help him out. Believe me, my mom is on top of it too with him on this subject. I have little respect for the American way of life in terms of family. It seem primarily to consist of a female enriching scheme (at the expense of the husband). That is traditionally called a WHORE, be it by the hour, installment plan, or life sentence.

  You don't like women, and that's painfully clear, but most of the rest of us realize that they are human beings just like everyone else, some OK, and some not.

  Your definition of 'liking' women is bullshit. Liking them means never criticizing anything they say or do even if it is unfair or detrimental to you or steps all over you. This makes a MAN? Thanks, I'll pass. I am human too and deserve the SAME respect I afford women that I respect-- respect for my time, labor, love.

  You don't bother to read and comprehend my other posts. If you did, it would be painfully clear to you that I love women, but that I truly DO consider them EQUALS, therefore expect the same respect for my life that I have for theirs. This means I keep women to a standard I would keep any man in the same situation, which is "own your responsibilities and do your duty and quit lording over me". I know this rankles a lot of laggard women who would prefer to slough off all responsibility on the man and take all the authority over him, but I am not a puss like most men.

  Believe me, my brother's wife's family is a perfect example of this. The cackling (and they LITERALLY DO CACKLE when together, it is hilarious) witches coven that is HER support family is lamenting they are getting too old to snag a guy so they can stay home and 'chat' with friends all day. And, funny thing, they consider themselves FEMINISTS above all. As I have been saying, the more a woman considers herself a feminist, it seems, the more likely they are to want to act like grown children. Sorry, I don't play that way. Sorry for you that you seem to be comfortable in your (assumed) slave status.

  If I did not give a shit about women or wanted to treat them as less than a man, I would not bother to post on this board or raise any fuss over gender imbalances. I would go find a guy to nestle up to (something that repulses me personally) instead.

  The true triumph of feminism had been to create a generation of supplicants like YOU willing to take any shit they dish out even if it breaks down your own sense of self worth (substituted by the women's little punishment and reward tactics designed to KEEP you there).

  I like STRONG WOMEN, feminists are typically the OPPOSITE of this.

  You can guess I consider myself a HUMANIST, someone who thinks men and women truly ARE equal. But you will persist in your prejudices against me and [the growing number of men like me] anyway. We do not buy the BS.

  AND AS FOR AKA, thanks for the lesson! I am always curious to learn new things (as if I 'read' your informative post..) but am glad I did not grow up on a farm and have to work sun up to sun down, unlike granddad in the old country.

  Permalink Wednesday, August 15, 2007 06:32 AM

• Will the VR

  [Read the article: Roundup: Virtual wives, non-ironic feminism and more]
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  have something like a loving, generous APPRECIATIVE female in it? I find most of the women I have been with have been lacking in this regard, figuring their mere showing up constituted a man feeling loved and appreciated.

  Permalink Wednesday, August 15, 2007 07:09 AM