Letters to the Editor
brightstar65
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I HAVE A THEORY
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]about why women keep attributing fear of childbirth to men.
The theory begins with another theory of mine. That inside each of us, we are mirroring the feelings of the opposite sex inside ourselves. Therefore men feel like women inside, a little uncertain and careful and tenuous and put out a shell that reflects what society expects a man to be like. Women mirror men inside, temperamental, assertive, probing but put out a shell that reflected what society expects a woman to be like.
In my theory neither men nor women would ever imagine or attribute this as something that is happening, partly out of shame and partly out of ignorance. But if a man could become a woman or vice versa and truly feel the difference in how each gender expresses itself, I think my theory would prove out.
Because of this theory, it is easy to ascertain that the feelings women have about the fear of the pain and uncertainty of childbirth is that this is a direct attack on their internal UNBREAKABLE 'male' certainty and drive. It is as if Ahhnuld is told to walk into a flaming blaze when he knows he will burn to death since he is not literally made of iron. Men, on the other hand, imagining the pain of giving childbirth, can float into a soft space inside themselves which is their feminine internal self, the place where the pain can be thought of as a passing of a VERY large bowel might be, difficult but pleasruable in its own way.
SO! Because women fear and awe about the possible pain of childbirth, and it attacks their certainty (which they unknowingly associate inside themselves with maleness), their mind converts their fear into a certainty that men must fear childbirth.
The equivalent for men would be if men imagined the greatest female orgasm possible in their minds and then worked it around in their brains. The female orgasm they are imagining is not a female orgasm, but a 'male' orgasm within a 'female' space. In this way, men then place onto all women the sense that all women must feel this way every time they have sex. In reality we know, some women cannot orgasm or their orgasms are small or infrequent or not very pleasurable.
This opens up the final possibility, that of course since SOME women can experience super hyper orgasms, there is some validity to men trying to imagine such an occurrence in that it is valid somewhere in the psyche of the opposite sex.
So, back to square one, a few men DO have a certain fear of childbirth and will walk off and hide, but that is a much smaller proportion of men than women imagine. The few men who truly ARE this way can be pointed to by women as exemplars of how all men must be if only men were 'truly honest'. In reality, these men are exceptions and most men are awed because they imagine the good side of childbirth.
Just a theory. Hope you can follow it so I can get some feedback. BTW you heard it here FIRST folks.
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BataBing BataBoom
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]you rolled into my implied conclusion!
women have a problem attributing pain and hurt to men, so they natually think men cannot feel. It is a genetic mechanism of millions of generations of them choosing certain men for certain reasons.
But imagine if 90% of women had their children taken away from them when and if they JUST A LITTLE strayed from the husband's demands in the marriage, and then they were told to work to support the child they can no longer see except on alternate weekends and only if they do the chicken dance a certain way. "Oh, and **SMILE** when you do it".
Women would literally break blood vessels in their little heads over the injustice of it.
So, from this example, one can with quite a bit of certainty say women have little to no feelings for men (unless they personally favor a specific man at a specific time and personally gain themselves from the favoring).
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What I find laughable
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]is that if t shirt slogans are all it takes to derail female candidates, then obviously the female candidates are not working enough to prove they have any reason to be winning campaigns anyway.
Are the prospects for future female presidents that weak and bleak?
Of course not, but as I was disappointed to see Royal fail in France, upon hearing WHY she failed (her assuming she would win because she is female, her giving few details of her programs, her espousing more government welfare in a country stuck in high unemployment and low morale) I was not surprised Sarkozy won after all.
So, women may have to prove themselves more than men, but then the stakes are high. Certainly no disparaging t shirt should have much effect on a credible candidate.
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CT wants to make men secondary to life
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[Read more letters about this article: Here]A man that has a baby or not has a baby is just as important as the mom who does the same. The details and mechanics of who is carrying is irrelevant to this, unless women are willing to cede that men should have special compensation and treatment in this regard because they are LACKING in the capacity to be equals to women.
So, frankly the dad being told to shut up and not report that daughter could have had two siblings is the equivalent of the slave and the massa in the cotton fields, the slave being the dad and the massa being the mom.
Frankly, for the sake of civilization and society and JUSTICE, women ought to be FORCED to report to authorities ANY pregnancy they have immediately so the father can be located and given equal rights and equal say in this matter. It is sorry that only women can carry babies, but this does not absolve women from being responsible REPORTING adults, just as men having more muscles does not absolve them but FORCES them into reporting to the military in wartime.