Letters to the Editor
brightstar65
Published Letters: 3526 Editor's Choice: 16
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[Read the article: Pseudopsychology Today]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]If you treat people with disdain (male or female), you will reap what you sow. Maybe you will get laid at bars by self-serving gold-diggers, but you will not find the loving, trustworthy life partner that you claim to want.
I vehemently do not want to get 'laid'. Though many will argue I do need it, but being a mere male (who has to WORK for his lays) and being not so 'smooth' like all your playas, I have no such RESPECTABLE outlet at my disposal.
Adults know that quality relationships require maturity, sensitivity, compromise, caring, tenderness and mutual respect.
So is this what explains the kindergarten behavior of so many women around me who are in relationships with their men and acting so immature? I can only guess that to them, it must be 'do what you want even if it hurts the other person' feminism at their service.
It is unlikely you will find a kind-hearted, trustworthy mother for your children by screwing barflys who are "fuckable".
I agree with you here. But again, I cannot stand the idea of picking someone up in a bar for a lay.
you yourself have posted frequently about encountering them in bars and being rejected because you are not good looking enough, and don't act arrogant enough, to interest such women. Only shallow, immature HUMAN BEINGS seek physical appearance in their sexual partners above all other characteristics, such as honesty, loyalty, trustworthiness, kindness, intelligence, and so forth.
So, by your admission, most women must be shallow and immature. In this we agree.
I didn't reject kind, decent men because they had receding hairlines! And I didn't call ANYONE a "nasty dog" based on what they looked like.
That makes ONE female who is like this (supposedly).
You say you want a decent woman, yet you constantly slam women who don't measure up to your standards of physical beauty -- at the same time you admit you are not remotely thin or handsome yourself.
I am a 5-7 supposedly from those who know me. My dad was handsome, my mom was pretty. If I was 165 lbs rather than 205, I would have many more choices. Every ten pounds I lose I get TWICE the interest. Apparently many, many women ARE extremely shallow. The ones that might normally be fine with a 205lb guy think they can get a 165lb guy, and for some reason they CAN and DO. which leaves 250 pounders for guys like me apparently. Do you have a problem with me having a problem with 250 lb women? And what exactly does a woman bring to the table, other than open disdain (or seeming lack of) for the man?
What EXACTLY does ugly mean to you? Is it all about looks? What about people who are UGLY ON THE INSIDE?
Put it this way, I would rather be with a not so good looking person with a good heart than with a hot looking but evil woman. there are shades of gray in here, of course. MY ultimate problem is I am not botherimg to circulate enough to meet a 'soul mate' type of person, really the ONLY kind I want or else I want NOTHING.
BTW: not many women of any type are going to want a man who says he wishes to "breed with her".
Women do not seek men who they can breed with? Why all the constant PC brow beating? Do women survive merely by intaking oxygen, preferably perfumed?
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Truth is
[Read the article: I have the hots for my stepson]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]there are scads of guys like Ben Dover (ostensibly).
They are out there putting on their best 'performance' to get a girl.
The girls usually only look at shallow things like:
- is the guy well dressed and clean?
- is he hot?
- is he treating me well?
Usually as long as these tests are passed, the girls are more than willing to open the gates.
My problem in comparison, can be summed up by what my high school girlfriend told me which is: "Be yourself".
And that is the problem. Being yourself means you never get laid or even have a shot at a relationship, unless 'yourself' is truly perfect, which most of us are most definitely NOT.
Face it, most people put on 'acts' in their lives, if for the night, or for a whole marriage. A world that I am just beginning to comprehend.
And while someone may tell me that it is better that I act myself, because the 'right one' will recognize this, I unfortunately was not born into the right family, where daddy has a big company which I stand to inherit, and I am not blessed with Brad Pitt looks, where everything is forgiven bya woman.
Meanwhile, I suffer under an inability to be slick enough to get me some action while I wait for the perfect 'right one' to finally 'recognize' me.
Women largely do not suffer under this, or course, because they go pick their 'performance artist', like (supposedly) a Ben Dover, for the night.
So this argument that men like Ben and me cannot or will not get female attention because of our beliefs or thoughts is specious and disingenuous and another female RUSE designed to throw us off.
God forbid feminism's cracks be opened wider to reveal the rot underneath, especially by a lowly mere male.
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Why do feminists think men and women think alike?
[Read the article: My boyfriend is checking out chicks while I'm standing right there!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]women generally don't ogle other men with their tongues out because their boyfriends wouldn't stand for it. it's a fucking insult, amounting to: you're not enough for me.
So sick of women imputing that men think about this the same way women do.
When a woman ogles guys, she wants them, or wants someone.
When a man ogles women, he mostly just likes the good feeling of looking at something lovely.
Granted, there is overlap and exceptions, but men and women are not alike. What goes on in a woman's head when she is looking at a lovely man is surely more perverted than what most guys think when they see a beautiful woman.