"An adolescent in need of these drugs has been violated - a victim of statutory rape - and absolutely she needs the help and support of parents, authorities, etc."

Um...don't young women under 18 have sex with young men under 18 on occasion? And for that matter, is it really (not just legally) statutory rape if she's 17 and he's 18? And is getting Plan B through a doctor going to get her all that support even if it was clearly statutory rape?

Yes, No, No.

First: what makes everyone so sure this letter is from a son rather than a daughter? Was there information that was deleted from the letter before posting it that tells Cary it was a son?

Second: Depending on the LW's age, I would say for him (I'm saying him for ease of discussion) to consider keeping it to himself. Parents are adults with their own lives that intersect with kid's lives, but a great deal of a parent's life, especially the sexual stuff, is not for public consumption. You wouldn't want to have a discussion with your father about your sexual interests and habits, and I'm certain you don't want to discuss his. There are many possible reasons for his having this stuff. I bet most plausible reasons are those you really don't want to know. Consider that you accidentally encountered a part of your dad's life that is off-limits and try to let it go. I have found it very useful to adopt the philosophy of never missing a chance to keep one's mouth shut.

If you cannot let it go, you might let your dad know you saw the materials and that it was something that surprised you. He might want to know that his hiding place has been uncovered. If you really want to know if he's gay, then ask him. But before asking anything, remember that you shouldn't ask questions if you really don't want the answers. After all, he's the same person with the same amount of love for you. What he does or looks at in his private life is his business.

I can't imagine that it's the LW's responsibility to tell anyone. And would telling actually help anyone, or only provide an outlet for the LW? If there is no one that would be helped and he needs to talk to someone, that's when you pay a therapist and consider it money well spend. And if the LW can find the porn, it's pretty likely that the mom knows something as well.

It seems to me that the best solution for teens (and other women) is to buy it or get someone to buy it for you before you need it; then it's right there if and when you need it and there's no trying to find it and someone who'll get it for you. I guess a young teen would have to keep it hidden somehow, though. Is it too expensive or does it have too short a shelf life for this to be a viable option?

You know, breasts aren't hidden because they're sexual. They're sexual because they're hidden. Most body parts kept hidden because of the time and culture become erotic. Conversely, nudist groups are famously non-sexual in nature.

There's nothing intrinsically wrong with that, until there is disapproval at their appearance for their intended use. Having nursed two children, the extreme sexualization of the breast seems a little silly to me. While I nursed discreetly in public, after a while it seemed weird to go to so much trouble to be discreet - sort of like eating while keeping your fork covered with your napkin. For a woman who is new to nursing, it is particularly difficult to combine this new skill she's still learning with trying to keep the shirt or sweater or opening or god forbid blanket where it's supposed to be.

That said, the baby in the pic doesn't look that well latched on to me and if the emphasis is supposed to be on breastfeeding, why is the photo almost all breast and not so much feeding?

As was pointed out, the teacher is probably 22 or 23 and the young man is 18; not THAT much of an age difference. She didn't become involved with him until he graduated. The attraction was mutual. She must have only taught him for a semester or maybe a year; it's not like she'd been his teacher since 7th grade. And if it's in a small town, there may be few men that are prospective dating partners, so it's natural that she'd been drawn to someone she knows and whose company she enjoys.

This seems to me to not be shameful or unethical but more along the lines of a bad idea (maybe). Usually there is a significant difference between maturity at 18 and 22; the fact that she was his teacher may have set him up for some hero worship that doesn't translate well into a long-term relationship. Neither of these may be the case here, though. There are going to be people who gossip that the relationship began before graduation.

I say to the LW: stop beating yourself up. Encourage the young man to go to college and if the attraction is still present in a couple of years, go for it. If they were to eventually marry, the original circumstances would soon just become a funny story they could tell their children.

I'm still here but have decided to confine retorts to NNG to the Tennis column where the woman knows she will leave her husband but somehow hasn't. Don't want to spread myself too thin and all relevant points are being addressed here anyway.

Carry on.