Honestly people, it's not like we're discussing shaving pubic hair or something important like that.

The part of the letter that I and others (and the LW) honed in on was the implication that the boyfriend ORDERED the woman not to wear club clothes on public transportation. Telling someone what she can or cannot do is the red flag here. Making suggestions about clothing, pointing out potential dangers and expressing concern as one adult to another is FINE. If the boyfriend in fact offered no alternative plan such as taking a cab each way, that makes me think he simply didn't want her to go.

Maybe the LW will post with clarification as to whether this was a specific case of the BF forbidding his girlfriend to do something, or simply his suggestion?

You've consistently derided the questions that are posed to Cary Tennis by the various letter writers. May I ask what you deem a suitable or worthy subject for a letter? And why do you continue to read something that obviously annoys you?

When I read the headline, I thought that the exes must have hurt, cheated or betrayed the fiancee' (sorry, my browser won't do the accent inflection properly) and the LW was full of righteous fury on her behalf. Silly me!

It is reasonable (and a good skill for marriage!) for the LW and fiancee' to compromise: she doesn't force him to socialize with her exes and he doesn't carry on about her maintaining a friendship with them. However, I get the impression that the LW is not interested in compromise. He wants the situation on his terms only. "Don't I have a right to a wife who cuts everything off with her exes?" No, you don't have that right. You can ask for it but it's not your right and you cannot demand it.

If you can't come to a compromise with her that you can both live with, don't marry her. And if you can't come to compromises with anyone, do the rest of the world a favor and stay single.

As someone who nursed two babies, I agree that an airline blanket is a scary thing to throw over one's baby's head. Also, not all babies like to have their heads covered and I know that it was hard for me to hold the baby, keep my arms supported, keep the breast in an accessible-yet-unobtrusive area AND hold a blanket in place (I tried a few times and gave up). And if I was asked to perform this feat after getting a baby packed for a trip and on a plane, I might be frustrated and tired enough to go a little ballistic myself.

The kicker is...if you're nursing discreetly, people may not even notice what you're doing but if you have that blanket over your shoulder you may as well wear a big sign on your head saying I AM NURSING A BABY.

That's what I tell my kids. "Some men fall in love with other men and some women fall in love with other women. We call those people "gay". Some other people don't like it, but your dad and I feel that it's no one's business". They don't seem to have spontaneously combusted yet.

And sorry, whoever you are, the percent of Americans who are opposed to gay rights is decreasing every year. And as for marriage, many people who are not in favor of "gay marriage' are fine with civil unions. Let's see if these laws are still in place 20 years from now.

Gay people are nothing unusual. I work with them and teach them. I hear the occasional sob story when there is a breakup, just as with the straight students. I just don't get the threat thing.

If there are women that the LW has become friendly with, he should pick two or three that know each other, take them out to lunch or dinner and ask them point-blank what their suggestions are. This might take a drink or two. If he's clear that he can take whatever they tell him, they'll probably tell him. He might find out that shyness comes off as condescension or something like that. He'll learn something and word might get around that he's a nice guy who wants a girlfriend.

It appears that the flight attendent in question has been "disciplined".

Here's something to ponder: The mother in question, by all accounts, WAS being discreet as possible. Maybe, just maybe, she knew that if she threw that blanket over the baby, the baby would yank it off, fuss and cry...thereby drawing more attention to the situation than if she refused the blanket. Maybe the mother knew her baby better than did the flight attendent. Maybe the mother made a decision that was best for everyone, not just the baby.