Rachel F already posted some info from this study, but more--including both line drawings detailing the procedures and actual photos of those mutilated, information on the demographics involved (it's not just Muslims, folks!), and a look at what the perpetuating factors are--is available here:

http://www.iismas.it/letture/stop.htm

You'll find the academic citations are considerably more current (predominantly 1990s) than those on the rather laughable hoodectomy site posted earlier (1910s and 1950s--hardly the golden age of sexual health information).

Thank you.

It works with puppies, who when young have a similar ability to give notice that they need to go but who also similarly can't "hold it."

[Now of course there'll be posts of all the ruined carpets from the clueless folks who didn't understand the basics of housetraining their dogs. I'm thinking they'd never be able to swing the whole diaper-free thing, either.}

Because driving stoned is a *fabulous* thing to do.

Fuckwit.

The LW needs to read The Gift of Fear, and Protecting the Gift by Gavin De Becker. Most everyone else should, too.

Condescend much?

Every time I read Opus, I feel more and more Gary Owen-like.

I'm thinking if I actually read more of them I'd be posting multiple rants, too.

He cheated on his ex, he cheated on you before you were married, he won't engage in meaningful discussion with you about this *and* he belittles you and dismisses your feelings concerning your not-unfounded concerns that he's cheating on you now.

WAKE UP!

Even if he didn't sleep with this woman he's being a d***head in how he's responding to your feelings here.

And you're letting him.

There is. Cary's advice was good. Listen to him.

You *can* make it through this.

All good thoughts your way.

A lodged foreign body *is* an emergency, and the staff were correct to be disgusted at you for taking your dog away. Impactions have a high probability for tissue death of the intestines--a horrible, painful way for an animal to die. Yes, fortune smiled on you and your dog, but I would discourage anyone from making the same choice you did and removing the animal--in most cases the outcome would not have been so sunny, and the damage caused would have made what would have been an expensive but fairly uncomplicated surgery into an astonishingly expensive and not as likely to be successful one.

Boo on Salon for choosing that letter--with such bad, pseudo medical advice--as an editor's pick.

Every individual, depending on conformation and biomechanics is going to have a particular cruising speed that is most efficient and most comfortable for them to maintain. It is as difficult and unpleasant for him to slow down to your speed as it is for you to speed up to keep up with his (moving slower than one's optimal speed takes more energy than moving along at one's optimal speed even if it's faster). So find a different workout partner, or agree to meet after the workout or event for lunch or something so you can both enjoy the event and then have time together.

And deal with the rudeness issue separately. I'm guessing this is not the only area of your lives where he acts this way toward you.

Don't tell your wife. It's pretty rotten to make someone else hurt just to make yourself feel better.

Get yourself checked for every STD there is.

Get yourself some sort of counseling.

Yeah, driving a hybrid vehicle and being able to afford organic produce *totally* justifies having another kid. *rolls eyes*

None of us has any idea what the Spitzers' relationship was like or what arrangements or understandings they may have had with each other.

It's none of our business.

Let it go.

Cary got this one exactly right.

I think the editors could have chosen better responses to feature.

On the off chance it's real, the other Mom is likely not to have seen enough to know what was going on. If one isn't thinking, I'm going to burst in and catch someone masturbating to kinky online porn, they aren't really going to be able to process and recall all those details. Even if she did and she blabs, you'll easily be able to dismiss her seemingly wacky claims (seriously, most people have the sense to lock the bloody door, that detail alone is enough to make her sound like like she's faking it).

@Lulu Lulu: You might not believe in monogamy, so presumably you wouldn't get married and, you know, promise to be monogamous. The shitty thing about this is that these people--unless in open marriages--ostensibly *do* believe in monogamy, and then lie to their spouses and have affairs.

If people that unhappy or disinclined to be monogamous, then why not just be honest about that and separate or divorce? Yes, it might be inconvenient and/or emotionally difficult, but at least it doesn't carry with it the risk of anyone unwittingly catching STDs, some of them deadly.

"It's New York drivers. It's one thing I've observed from living here: They will not slow down. It's almost like you're taunting them. I was told in Boston that signaling is revealing your intentions to the enemy. It's the same here. You're better off not signaling."

That's just stupid. (And as a former courier in Boston I know of what I write.) They might not slow down if you put your signal on, but at least they're going to be aware that you are moving, so if you miscalculate they'll possibly have at least a quicker reaction time.