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Monday, May 5, 2008 11:24 AM

Why?

"Yeesh, I don't know why this is happening. Maybe it's depression, or "changing sexual roles," as the story so vaguely suggests." Sarah Hepola

Well crap, couldn't POSSIBLY be that men are getting turned off when women won't let them BE men. You want him to be kinder, gentlier, more considerate and at the same time you want him to be a he-man, to take charge - but ONLY if he does what YOU want him to do.

OR, could be you want him to wine you and dine you every single time...and then make conditions about how, when, and where you're going to have sex. Maybe the payoff isn't worth all the effort to go thru to get it any more.

There are a number of reasons why this is occurring and it depends on the situation with the man and the woman.

Monday, May 5, 2008 11:32 AM

re: Nothing has changed

bernbart,

"Middle age is when men often seek sex outside their marriage . As their wives age, the men do want to accept they too are aging. So they seek thrills elsewhere often with younger women to keep up the fantacy that they themselves are still young. Truth is middle age guys jsut can't get it up as often, so their wham, bam, thank you, days are gone. It takes more time which the men are not used to."

Secure middle aged men would not need to seek sex outside of marriage if their wives were willing to try new things, do it more often and be more willing to do it. Middle aged men generally CAN get it up as often as they used to...PROVIDED they have been GETTING it as often as they used to. The problem is, if you don't use it, you lose it.

What I find ironic is, women constantly turn down sex and bitch about it...but once middle age sits in, they bitch about not getting enough.

Seems to me, if you turned it down pretty often when you were young, you have no place to complain when you can't get it when you're older.

Tuesday, May 6, 2008 08:29 AM

OK so...

she wants to educate people that women should enjoy orgasms? Ok...what if the guy takes the class, disagrees and doesn't worry about the woman's orgasm? Aside from not getting any anymore, does he go to jail?

What if the woman is frigid? Is that a punishable offense?

This is just plain stupid.

Tuesday, May 6, 2008 12:29 PM

Aw Heck Parson

Being blamed for everything is SOP for any husband...starts when he gets married and just goes downhill from there.

My only question is, what are the penalites? Heck, this may do away with marriage forever. Yep, the post-feminist utopia, indeed.

Tuesday, May 6, 2008 01:15 PM

@ boobalah

"But it a husband doesn't do his duty, so to speak, it's grounds for his wife to ask for a divorce."

And can she take half (or MORE) of everything if she DOES divorce him under Jewish law?

Thursday, May 8, 2008 11:13 AM
Original article: What does Hillary want?

The ONLY way

Hillary will concede defeat is if she has a heart-attack or she doesn't get enough superdelegate votes.

That's about it.

Tuesday, May 13, 2008 09:59 AM
Original article: Poetry vs. fear

Pat Tillman

BobbyG,

"BTW. unauthorized photo from The Spectakular Royal Weddin':

www.bgladd.com/JennaGoArmy.jpg"

Pat Tillman VOLUNTEERED to join the Army. He wasn't pushed, he wasn't coerced, he wasn't blackmailed...he VOLUNTEERED.

THAT means he WANTED to be where he was. Mr. Tillman was ALSO of age to MAKE that decision...which means what his mother wanted was IRRELEVANT.

Pat Tillman made his decision...all by himself.

Tuesday, May 13, 2008 10:02 AM
Original article: Poetry vs. fear

If it DOES come down...

to a contest between Obama and McCain, I suspect McCain WILL win the election because MANY of those who would vote for Hillary will either go with McCain (either because he's more middle of the road or to spite Obama) OR they will not vote at all.

My guess is, McCain will profit more from Hillary's defeat than Obama will...but that's just my opinion on it.

Tuesday, May 13, 2008 10:18 AM
Original article: Poetry vs. fear

@mysticmom

And once again we have someone who says that if their candidate doesn't win, they will leave the country. Now, HOW many people ACTUALLY do that if their candidate loses? VERY FEW.

Frankly, I really don't care WHO wins because there really isn't ANYONE in this race I believe in...BUT I am NOT going to go running with my tail between my legs either.

I will hold WHOEVER wins accountable with every breath I take. I will constantly be a thorn in their side (as much as a normal joe CAN be) until either they leave office or do as they say they will.

BTW, if it came to Obama vs. McCain...I would probably have to go with McCain...IF I can bring myself to vote. If not, it will be the FIRST time in 49 years that I did not vote at all!

Tuesday, May 13, 2008 10:22 AM
Original article: Racism on the trail

Ah well

Looks like racism and prejudice is alive and well in BOTH political parties, doesn't it.

Tuesday, May 13, 2008 10:27 AM

I have NO problem

with getting DNA samples from criminals CONVICTED of a violent crime.

HOWEVER, since Neuman wants to "make it mandatory for police to take DNA samples from anyone ARRESTED for a violent crime", then you take way their rights AND their assumption of innocence until PROVEN guilty.

Sorry but until they are CONVICTED of a crime, go get a WARRANT!

Tuesday, May 13, 2008 10:37 AM

AH GEEZ!

Ok...I lived from JFK all the way thru to the present. EVERY President sucked AND did some good. That's just the way it IS people!

Presidents are people, same as you and me. They do SOME things we like and SOME things we don't.

They aren't perfect...so get OVER it!

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