I remember that a woman that I was dating told me, in 'casual conversation' that she had, on occassion, enjoyed the sexual pleasure of being with another woman. She also revealed that she had, at times, been quite casual about sexual intimacy with men. It did not arouse latent desires for a three-way, nor did it cause me to question the rich intimacy that this woman and I had shared.....

However, it did form the basis for a rich and profound discussion about sexuality, hers and mine. During that conversation, I noted my paste experiences with other men. Somehow, it seemed appropriate........ It did not arouse a latent desire for her to experience a three-way, nor did it cause her to question the rich intimacy that she derived from being with me.

That rich conversation led, over time, to a profound sharing of who whe are, and where we got to our adult presences. And that led, ultimately, to each of us pursuing a healing journey in relation to our histories of childhood sexual abuse. During our marriage, we have supported each other profoundly as we pursue our parallel healing journeys. And, we keep on talking, about sex, about life, about dreams, about who we are now, who we were then, and what we hope to be. Sexually, emotionally.............

I don't know, and really don't care, why LW chose to spend time in intimacy with women, then shifted to men. That is her story, and a profoundly personal one, at that. However, her potential LTR companion may find the information useful, profound and englightening. They may talk, talk about things that have not yet been talked about, and find a new level of intimacy. And, hsi interest may be gentle, caring and not craven or lascivious....

So, there are reactions from a man other than a desire to shack up in a room-by-the hour with someone named Bambi for a three-way or to experience feelings of profound inadequacy because he is the "wrong" gender.......

My wife, educated in Quaker schools, and now an Attender at Quaker Meeting, is one of those women in tennis shoes, carrying placards and signs, petitions and such. She has undergone training in passive non-violent resistance. It is very similar to the education I obtained while attending a Unitarian church, preparing for antiwar protests (thirty years ago....). I practiced nonviolent protests decades ago, facing armed militia with placards......There is an art to protest, there is care, and there is egregious stupidity. If you want to make a point, one learns to pay attention to how to secure the most positive prsentation of your position by - the press.

This young man, avowedly an agent provocateur, interrupted another student, waited until after the Q/A was closed, grabs the mike, hands his camera to a befuddled bystander who does, at least, know how to operate the on switch, and this young hot dude is ready to rolllllllll.

he enters upon, not a structured discourse with thoughtful questions, but a rant and ramble, one that, in court, would have the judge asking whether there was a question in this young boy's head..... and then, when the police, functioning in accordance with the struture of the meeting, try to limit the boffish and disruptive behavior of this young man, stupidly resists, shrieks "victim", and then - truly resists arrest.

So, did the cops over-react? They provided him with ample language and behavior to suggest that he cease and desist. he did not. They warned him that he would be Tasered if he continued to resist. He continued to resist, active, verbally, as long as the cameras were rolling..... and, not surprisingly, was tasered. And frankly, given the ebullient enthusiasm of this hyperattenuated young man f 200 pounds, I am not surprised it took the focus of the group of six to subdue him.

That he then turns into happyboy agent provocateur in the car, waiting for the media to greet him with the loving nuance of the lens when he arrives at jail, is not surprising.

So, this young dude resisted arrest. He then resists resisting arrest. Frankly, I think the police may have been slightly over the top, but not by much. And this young man's process was clearly focused, not on the content of his questions, but on his being the center of attention.