Letters to the Editor
happy chick
Published Letters: 31 Editor's Choice: 3
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Sick mommy of grandkids
[Read the article: My husband won't do his laundry]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]She didn't say it's her daughter. They could be her son's children.
Other posters have made my points better (BUT that won't stop me!). I think the LW doesn't respect her husband as a man, stemming from when he lost his job. It goes together with using "bitch-slap" that once he lost it she asked him to do his own laundry. Like she was punishing him (or even emasculating him or forcing him to act out what she perceived as his emasculation). And I think he figured that out on some level and that's why he refuses to do it. I agree she is probably overwhelmed but I also think there is a distinct lack of love in her letter. Whoever said "Look at what your partner IS doing" was so right. If he's a useless piece of sh*t get rid of him; if he's a great guy keep him; neither determination ACTUALLY hinges at all on whether he does his laundry.
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Are you looking like you're interested?
[Read the article: I'm sexy and available! Chat me up!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I understand that unfortunately the race thing could be limiting your chances with men in all-white environments, but if you are not getting attention in mostly-black environments either, then I think it does have to do with the signals. Forget for a minute about your shyness and people's suggestions of acting classes, etc. Are you dressing in a somewhat stylish and feminine manner? I know that men should love us for who we are, and once we know them they usually do. But dressing in clothes that show some care not only makes us more attractive to men, I think it sends a message that we are on the market. Not that "taken" women shouldn't fix themselves up, but I just notice that when my hair is done, make-up on, and I'm wearing something fitted and stylish (can be jeans, dress, doesn't matter - should be appropriate for the setting), men look at me more. So I think they might be inclined to talk to me more too. Rule of thumb, get rid of anything in your wardrobe that a guy could wear. Even t-shirts - wear fitted, scoop-neck t-shirts, not ones from your college. Wear a bit of make-up. When someone does talk to you, smile at him during your conversation. Good luck!!!
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Perfectly reasonable and rational
[Read the article: An elderly salesman terrorized me in front of my kids!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]No time to read all the letters but I must say that it's very rational for a woman, living alone, with children (!) not to want to confront this guy. Not only does she not want an incident right then and there, but he knows where she lives! She wants things to be copacetic and then later to just cancel, ostensibly for maybe price or other neutral reasons. Cary, like most men, has no idea how women live with the pervasive threat and fear of violence. And many predators are by nature inflamed by women who stand up to them.
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Oral
[Read the article: Linguists: "Moist" makes women cringe]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I always avoid the word "oral", especially in professional conversations, and say "verbal" even though sometimes it's less precise. I just don't want to go around saying "he confirmed it orally" or, heaven forbid "we gave them oral comfort"!
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LW: once and for all: you are right
[Read the article: My half-brother locked me in the closet and I think I'm to blame]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]What happened was outrageous. Plain and simple. You can forgive him and have sympathy for the troubled kid he maybe was, but you had a right to be free of that abuse. I didn't feel cold toward you when I read your letter; I felt sorry for you. People need to understand that bullying is not OK.
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Maybe the problem
[Read the article: Work sucks? Blame her!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]isn't that work wasn't "redefined" and job expectations lowered. That's too radical and the profit motive is the profit motive (and economics is economics - you can't get paid for not adding value). Maybe the "problem" is that when women entered the workforce instead of sticking to teaching and nursing, we doubled the supply of labor for jobs that had traditionally been men's province. So, the buyers - employers - could afford to be choosy while we (men and women) sold our labor for ever lower prices per unit because we had to compete with more and more other people able to do the same job. As long as anyone is will to work like a dog (and someone always will be in a capitalist society), employers can hold out for that.
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Flipside
[Read the article: Welcome to the "menaissance"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Do these guys ever think about the flipside of having that fabled medieval manliness back? Like, you have to marry the mother of your children. You may well have to marry a woman just to have sex with her. You are the sole breadwinner. It strikes me today that men have it easy on some fronts yet resent the sharing of responsibility that comes with that.
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Breast Feeding
[Read the article: MSNBC on the "pregnant man": "I'm gonna be sick"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I can't believe people aren't harping on how selfish s/he was to get his/her breasts removed instead of keeping them around for just this occasion! If it were a heterosexual woman who had had implants to enhance her comfort with her physical body, look out for all the sanctimommies...
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Where she got the drugs
[Read the article: My body, my choice, my art project?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]To the person who wonders where she got the drugs, $100 says she got them from Yale's health services, who would *never* question a woman's right to choose even if she did come to them multiple times in 9 months with unplanned pregnancies.
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disagree
[Read the article: Finale wrap-up: "The Office"]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I actually thought this episode was great and touched on the combination of comedy and tragedy that the British version achieved. Michael's disappointment, Holly's disappointment, Pam's disappointment, Jim's disappointment, Dwight's disappointment (then not)... I haven't cared this much about a show's characters, other than Mad Men's, since Ross and Rachel were maybe going to get together. What I love about it is it has all the complexity of a soap opera but instead of its being acted straight and actors telling us how their characters feel, they have to show it on their faces and hide it from those around them. A lot like in real life. I think the acting and writing are brilliant to achieve that result. It's a tragedy wrapped in a comedy wrapped in a spoof. Genius.