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Around the same time as women were figuring out how to kick ass, some good men (and, to be fair, a lot of women) were questioning whether all this ass kicking was such a great idea, and whether it might be best to spend a little less time on it. And some bad men were of course opposing the women who wanted to start kicking some ass. These complimenting zeitgeists fed (and feed) off of each other. We're still going through it.
While all this is going on, a corresponding shift in sexual attitudes starts, but at a glacial pace. Now, women had a lot of resentment toward men because men have been freely using them for centuries as a mere adjunct to their ass-kicking (and, of course, not to mention kicking their ass). Since women were and are now trying to kick ass and continue to admire and be attracted to people who do, they start saying, "what the hell man, you suck. It's cool to kick ass, and you aren't even trying." Then the men say, "hey wait a minute, kicking ass isn't that cool" (and the worse ones said "you shouldn't be kicking ass, you're a girl.")
And now, since the sexual attitude shift hasn't caught up, the women say, "No way, kicking ass rules, and I'm not sleeping with you unless you do." And the good men say, "hey (men say 'hey' a lot), you're just concentrating on kicking ass, which isn't that cool. I still really want to sleep with you (c'mon men, you know it's true), but you're sort of starting to seem not that cool." And the bad men say (out of resentment that they aren't kicking ass as well as the women), "you're trying to emasculate me. Hey buddies, women really suck." And since women have always had a hard time telling the good men from the bad (c'mon women, you know it's true), they and men start getting into arguments like this one.
Some day though, the women who concentrate on kicking ass to the exclusion of all else will figure out that it's just not that cool, may harm those around you, and certainly doesn't make you a better person. And the men will figure that out too, and also that it doesn't matter if you're a boy or a girl, kicking ass generally sucks. And men and women will begin come together to demolish all remaining sexual preconceptions and live happily ever after, together in peace and harmony. And eat chocolate together too.
Actually, that will never happen - sorry to get your hopes up. But maybe, if those of us who question whether kicking ass is all it's cracked up to be, no matter ones sex, keep trying to hold ourselves to the highest moral standards, detach outselves from material possessions, and try our best to improve the lives of others through compassion and empathy, maybe we can improve things.
