Most mothers of infants are still somewhat in shock at the ways their lives have changed after becoming a parent.I had a friend who said it was only when her children were around ten that she came to realize in a deep way they weren't going away.And she was a great mom.

After all, you have had years of self centered practice and only a matter of months of putting someone whose needs are changing on a weekly basis, before your own needs.So be forgiving of your anger and resentment which are inevitible in motherhood,if you are kind to yourself you will be able to extend kindness to your child. Take a child development and parenting class - they will help you see not all mothers "have it together" either

As for the dad, the fact that you are not married means to me that he really is not interested in doing "the family thing". Let him go so he can get attend to his own issues without blaming the two of you , and move back to the town where you are more likely to find support. Don't even think of finding a partner at this time- you are still undergoing big life changes.

Try and stabilize your living situation and keep going to a therapist to discuss the many conflicted messages you are giving yourself--- I think there is a cohesive message in there that will honor both your own needs and that of your child.

Trying to take care of someone who is also angry and resentful and has PTSD ( and doesn't care to address it)is just too much for a new mother and child.

Wish your partner well and let him take the lead in how much he wants to say in touch but don't cower to his wounds, over the needs of you and your child.

call Bernake, Greenspan, Paulson and Geithener whores.

Why bother with the fluffers?

Richmond High School is accepting cards and donations for the victim and her family. They can be mailed to the school at 1250 23rd St., Richmond, CA 94804-10

A fifteen year old girl does not have a clear sense of what to expect from men, or from partying. They have barely left behind junior high school. But no woman deserves rape.If anything good comes from this case it is that many families will make it a point to to bring it to the attention of their children and start the discussion of how dangerous life can be and what is honorable behavior for men. Most rapes,like this one,are related to someone known to the victim.

These men do not care who the victim is,they are really doing this to impress each other with their dick and prove they are not gay,at the same time they are copulating with other men.

Until all men decide that seriously communicating to other men that rape,tricking, and lying to women to get sex is seriously abhorrent,despicable,not funny,not manly, and an act worthy of making the perpetrator shunned, rape will continue to be viewed as "boys being boys".

Until the men in power decide funding the testing of thousands of rape kits languishing for decades in crime labs all over the nation is a high priority,rape will continue.As long as men talk about having sex with women in sports terms ,such as scoring , getting lucky and homeruns, rape will continue.Until men can view women as human beings,rape will continue.

Rape has nothing to do with how women dress or drink, and everything to do with mens idea of themselves as priviliged.

not on their own satisfaction but on their partners. "

Oh Puhleeze - If porn were to be instructive for men there would be way more kissing!There would be play and suspense.

Instead porn is commercial formulaic product produced by a multi billion dollar industry for men to jerk off to.Porn is the ultimate corporatization of our lives- men can get instant sex from their computer and women can get fertilized from the local sperm bank (who gets it from ...porn) No need to look to anyone but the profit center for satisfaction.

I imagine the porn watcher as the same guy who thinks its great to play loud Metallica or make someone stand in one position for hours as a form of torture.In other words - a meth head .(the jackhammering gives it away)

Porn has made young men sexually unimaginative and insensitive, requiring more extreme and physical sexual sensations to match their own hamfistedness.

Porn is men masturbating to other men - just like the gang rape in Richmond.

for kidnapping and torture of one of their citizens or at least of depriving him of council?

Of courseI know nothing about international law , but isn't one state required to notify another state if they arrest one of their citizens so they can counsel from their embassy ?

At the least they can say they were deprived of their tax money .

Show up at the office every week with a person of a differing

stigmatized nationality, even if you have to pay them, - bring in Iranians,Pakistanis, women in hijabs, flaming gays, Africans,Sikhs with turbans and Mexicans in cowboy boots.

Elaborately introduce them to him and perhaps a few other people n the office ,have them behave with infinte suaveness and refer overtly to their professions in physics, medicine,world famous restaurant owners, Ivy league academia and CEOs of million dollar start - ups.

They might even refer to using the services of the company at some time in the future. Make sure they ask him for his business card before they leave.