throw the stick in the trash instead of putting it in front of their place? Did he really think they lost one?

Then after she returned it to him - why didn't you ?

Somebody has to start acting like a grown up here.Perhaps your letter would have been better given the title of yesterdays letter;

"I didn't get the memo on how to become an adult"

yo prefer the company of this man. Taking into account the fragility of your recovery and his, can you honestly say if you become great friends and then he hits on you sexually,it would be no big deal for either of you? Because 8 out 10 that is coming down the road.Even if you say that now , you have no idea the extent of how you may feel betrayed and need to drink again should this occur. Be careful and don't lean so hard on someone who is just a toddler too,while you are still learning to walk sober.Both of you could end up on the floor.

LW - I hope Cary's answer will allow you to step back . Your brother is not you, not your mother or your father. He has to make his own way.Please make yourselves available for him at this sensitive time, don't make his quest into an escape from a prison camp.Offer him food,smiles, companionship ( movies , music , hikes) but other than that the best way you can help him is to get out of his way.

You need to question your own ability to love him unconditionally -and work towards doing so.

Call me cynical but would you be writing this letter if your ex hadn't threatened to tell any woman you're involved with? I have a feeling the answer is no or you would already shared your relationship problems.

I've always wondered why a person can get 4-5 years in jail for physical assault from say , a fight in a bar, but beating up a female partner gets counseling or'anger management 'classes."This is a miscarriage of justice.

You made no mention of the things that trigger your violence - jealousy, alcohol, sex,control over your wife's daily activities or finances. But just because you've gone to a therapist with your wife does not mean you are now "cured" of your habit of dealing with difficult aspects of your life with uncontrollable violence.

You need to be supervised,in this relationship for the first few years , should it last that long, and your GF needs to be involved in that therapy/supervision, though perhaps not necessarily on a weekly basis. Perhaps after being in it for a few weeks you can invite her and tell her there... she will obviously need some support at the time of telling to feel safe to react honestly.And it is up to her to decide if she wants to take a chance on getting beat up in her relationship- not your decision to withold the fact that a she is gambling.

you hand him a pair of scissors and ask him to cut it off.You could sew a little pocket on the thigh to store them.

Yes, thats true , but there are probably ninety year old's who are as innocent as eight year olds about sex. Shall we change of consent to 25?

If Mckenzie was too immature to tell her father to back off, was she really able to agree to marry a man the day after she betrayed her husband with him?

If she was befuddled with drugs,couldn't the same be said of her father, who had an equal history of incapacitation with them.?

What John did was wrong, but I don't see an excuse for a nineteen to twenty seven year old McKenzie , who had ample resources to seek therapy or just not show up to meet her dad.. The fact that the two of them made a hideous mistake, gives her no right to accuse him, only once he's gone or to make money off the mistake she fully participated in.

But in America it seems the slimier you are, the higher you are propelled .

but you seem to have some extreme fluctuations in mood,and motivation. Of course you are burned out, you have been driving at 110 miles an hour. Is it just surging hormones or could there be some real wacky brain chemistry going on? It might be worth while checking out or at least visiting a counselor to talk about your vocational goals,perhaps at the same time they could get a feel for your inner tempo,and if its driving you or you're driving it.