You really think you have the power to make your dad relate to you? You don't- you can't fix things for other people, which is the myth that the childen of alcoholics live with.

After all when he said " I used to be your hero" and you replied "Well I found out you're not so perfect "instead of using that as an opening to reach out to you,to find out what YOU think, how you see things -he shut down - end of story so far. What you said was not shameful or hurtful - it 's the truth,of every human's life.He was the adult in that situation but since an alcoholic lives in a world of black and white if he can't be a hero, he's a nothing.

LW - you are not going to be able to make your dad be a functioning adult, no matter how much you "communicate " with him.Please go to Adult Children of Alcoholics or Codependency meetings- (they're free!)and learn how to become a functional adult yourself so that you don't pass this pattern on.Even though you may not drink ,you missed learning how to function emotionally in this world and have learned screwed up rules of life..You are lucky to face this early - don't spend decades of your life trying to fix someone who won't admit they have a problem. Live your life , strive for health.

is Michael Steele.He has no real accomplshments and has never really held a job.

Communicating with others requires you to get their attention and hold it. You need to know how to project your voice and presence.People follow the energy-if you are not able to share any they will step into the void and fill it.

These classes are often available at community colleges or alternative classes - you may meet some new friends too and not be so dependent on "problems" for your social life.

at the last minute when the hometown team is losing and he has spent the whole game passing the ball to the opposition.

to make money. She never blinked once about taking off her clothes for photographers and we can assume for Donald Trump.

You can bet that Sarah Palin would not hesitate to do the same if her publicity quotiant drops too low. Right now she's making more off of Bristol's new virginity.

The truth is if you're not a banker receiving government handouts

and getting million dollar bonuses for criminal activity,

jobs in America are few and far between these days.

Prositution is one of the few gainful employments left.

Just look at the 535 or so in Congress who drop to their knees every time a lobbyist enters the room.

so you can really enjoy playing with guns and teach your son what they are really all about.

You ignore the stupid behavior , because its not worth fighting it- better let them wear themselves out so they'll fall asleep early.

realize if you fall apart your son will go down anyway so strive to maintain your own mind and boundaries. At the same time you will be modeling him healthy behavior and the message that you are not responsible for him -he is. Get him an apartment and enough to live on for amonth and drop off his clothes,he will have a month to get a job or a roomate...problems after that are his to take care of. I have seen mothers lives ruined by their children holding them emotional hostage - do not allow him to ruin yours.Get him in touch with a mental health center and only answer his phone calls except once a week.

So may of the "older generation " do not want to pay taxes for other peoples children to go to school or evidently even see children. They are the strangest generation ever produced,not the greatest- .

Yes, Obama is a good speaker, but unfortunately the actual information conveyed when examined without his charisma is disheartening.

He glorified the market as a solution -the same market that has defrauded insurance consumers for years in order to reward CEOs with obscene bonuses on the backs of sick people.We should not need to pass laws to make them treatt the consumer fairly - we should be throwing them in jail for fraud! and gross negligence! They will find new means to screw us because their first intent is to make profits , not deliver healthcare .

Obama attempted to mollify people by putting the so called "exchanges" into 2013. We can rest assured these will never take place ...its likely he won't even be around.

He did not address the issue of "fining " people who don't buy health care insurance , which is just another huge tax on the poor who are already staggering under the weight of the basics . he no longer sems interested in rolling back Bush s tax cuts for the top 1% as a method of financng healthcare.

He basically offered a Repug plan ( from Romney and McCcain) as well as offering the Repugs tort reform ( already proved to have no effect on malpractice insurance) to a wildly cheering Dem crowd .

Talk about cult of personality.