Your mother remains in denial about what happened, why would you enable her to continue? She wants nothing more than "for us to be together and wonders why you can't just "get over it" so we can all be one happy family again. Her denial that yours is not one big happy family because of your brother's actions, has nothing to do with your decision.Your brother is the reason her wish cannot be fulfilled .To put it on your shoulders is the worst kind of minimizing of the damage that only he is responsible for.It actually moves her into role of enabler of immoral and criminal actions.

However , there are two caveats that I suggest you offer her, which you can use to point out where the the responsibilty belongs.The first is - has your brother apologized to you? Not a perfunctuory "I'm sorry" but a soul searching admission of regret, because without that nothing has changed. Has HE gone into therapy?

Second , has your brother offered to pay for the therapy bills you have incurred , or in any way offered to make restitution for the damge he's to your life?

If he has, then I think you should consider going, at least for the amount of time you can stand it.If not ,someone needs to point out to her that you are the only person continuing to pay the price for his actions, not only through having to put time and energy into therapy , but also the accusation by your mother that you are ruining her "one big happy family".

Your brother is a human being capable of choice and it is his move. If he is not repentent your mother needs to see that and place accountabilty where it is due.

well,actually it might be a tie.The ongoing race card whine from Obama supporters muffled the outrageous racist behaviour of certain people in WV who should hav been targeted as the low lifes they were for their malicious behaviour to young Obama supporters .This should have been an extensive media event forcing West Virginians to look at themselves and perhaps force the decent ones to speak out against such things. That opportunity was lost because there is no sense of porportion as to what is truly worth fighting about.

Obama supporters seem to feel everything is outrageous and racist from the Hilary camp and lose the opportunity to make real points when they are needed.Some seem to think outrage is the only energy source for a campaign .They are going to be sadly surprised when not only does it not work with the Repugs it stimulates them and they will have lost valuable allies by their ongoing campaign of hatred against H.C., whose supporters would previously been available to fight for traditional Dem concerns.These Obama supporters seem to not care about the party or long term strategy as much as expressing the diviseness that Obama has promised to keep out of his campaign.He has done a good job of it I don't understand why his supporters are not following his lead , which can't help to impress people eventually ,even racists , mightily..

As long as your dad is treating your mom okay , it is not your business.Its sad, frustrating and disappointing but don't spread the confusion and heartbreak..Write down the date , the name of the person and other pertinent info and keep it stashed in case some day you need to use it to get your mom a fair settlement by threatening your dad to let her use it in court, should he play nasty.

But don't interfere in someone else's marriage. People married that long have created their own eco system ,balanced to their needs, for reasons you can never fathom.Until you've been there don't pass judgement on their arrangement.

But I can see how you might want to grieve for the loss of who you thought your father was, and what your parents and family appeared to be. You deserve to, my condolences

I read that 17% of H.C supporters voted based on race. Guess what -100% have been called racist. I read 40 % of her supporters were men .Guess what 100% of them have been called bitter old Bicxxes. I read that 1 out of 4 wouldn't vote for B.O and 1 out of 5 of his supporters wouldn't vote for her ( a poll early May - Harpers). Guess who's been accused of being the betrayers ? Thats right -100 % of Hilary supporters.

I don't know how many times I've read that Obama doesn't need Hil, Bil or anyone associated with them , they are scum, racist, and any number of foul names and we can do it without them. I constantly read her supporters are just votng for her because she's a woman and not because they prefer her health care plan, stand against NCLB , green jobs program , policy orientation and experience with Repug tactics. In other words they incapable of parsing policy stances.

Do you really wonder why they are considering not voting for a campaign that substitutes this kind of contempt for a "welcome " come on in , we need you" as a means of persuasion?