And really would you want a man so weak and easily manipulated, a man with zero self regard or respect, because that is what you described.

It looks like he is already commited , whether its on paper or not. Save yourself some heartbreak and drama . You're young ,move on.

and when you find that out it hurts.

Your parents are not who you thought they were and you weren't who they thought you were.

You're even.

Its time to learn who you all really are.

What a great opportunity to meet new people.

Are these people you'll want to hang out with or will they be distant but polite acquaintences.?

You're about to find out, but don' tmake assumptions because you've known them all your life you know. After all they didn't know about you.

When stalking an unfamialiar animal , its best to tread lightly to avoid startling them.

be patient, keep showing up on a regular basis, be nonthreatening, lure them with treats.

One of these days they may eat out of your hand.

I have friends , one the CFO and the other the acountant of the same company . They have managed to be in love and keep it secret for going on 4 years now.

Keep it secret and gradually let it be known you are dating, long after you have become better established in the company. Be aware however you will be the one to take the fall should he decide you 're no longer interesting.

This could mean it will be impossible to get a recomendation from anyone in the company that counts.Because of that possibility I suggest you try and locate another job now.

These academics and the millions like them who are willing to dive into the neverending abyss of philosophical excrement in order to fish out rotten justifications for the reasons democratically elected (HA!) officials chse to close their eyes to the law , the Constitution, the rules of the Geneva Convention and even their own professed religion occurs for one reason only.

They want to justify why they DID NOTHING.

I'm not sure why you're not asking your husband instead of total strangers. Whether he has resentment is one thing , but it does seem that you have guilt.People's needs and desires change over time , perhaps his job provides him with stability and community that he didn't have as an artist, perhaps being a breadwinner gives him pride and motivation in a way that art never did. If he's not complaining, don't assume he's unhappy - after all he has been able to make two other peoples lives much better - a trremendous accomplishment in itself.

You all need to talk , honestly and forthrightly and to revisit the question at intervals. If his answer is that he is pining to recharge his art career then you need to discuss what this means . perhaps two part tme day jobs.?

My spouse and I have used a rating system ( what is the proportion of happiness for one to the porportion of unhappiness for the other) as well as taking turns when it comes to making decisions. I don't know that our choices are any better but at least things feel fairer and that goes a long way.

just the price. SUV's are markedly more prone to tipping over when turning or the driver loses control while driving or in an accident. My insurance company referred to them as death traps. I suppose you rationalizedzed the fact that they harm and kill others at a significantly higher rate some kind of protection for you.That must make you feel powerful and invincible, even "above the crowd"

Maybe you can buy extra life insurance with the money you saved.

First of all I have no experience with your disorder so please forgive anything I may that is insensitive. Probably obsessing on your problem increases it. Someone said people who get picked on as child may repeat this experience in a literal fashion That was very illiuminating for me in considering my own non self affirming habits. So not only do you pick at yourself you then take it even further and pick on yourself for picking on yourself.

Arnold Mindell is a world renown therapist who has cured people by having them consciously exxagerate their disease manifestations to make understable what the somatic body is trying to communicate. When the message is fully received from the body to the conscious mind there is no longer need for the somatic body to keep signaling.

.In addition as person who bit their nails for their whole life , with similiar shame,I was astounded when I went to an acupuncurist for an unrelated problem ( depression, allergies) and found myself no longer biting them . Just ....dropped.These were just side effects as they say. Unfortunately there are few positive side effects which occur with western phamaceuticals, because their objective is not to establish harmony and balance but to eradicate one thing.The question is where will it pop up next?

I'm relaying this info not to push acupuncture but to educate those who think it is all about willpower. It is about the interelationship of our mind and body This is an opportunity for you to get to know yourself and the world in a deeper way . I have already learned so much just from the people who have written in . You may be able to assist others with what you learn. Perhaps this "problem" is the vehicle to take ou towards that personal growth.