If you can't trust -you need to leave with all that that entails. If you're going to stay you have no choice but to trust the person you are sharing your life and a child with,Their is absolutely nothing but mind games in staying with someone you don't trust. Mind games lead to madness and insanity for all concerned,

.No one should live like that - not you, not your husband and not your child. You think you can guard against pain and hurt in life, by becoming distrustful, coniving and suspcious. its not worth the price- you can recover from pain, but paranoia and suspician actually degrade your soul and eat away your view of the whole world.

You made it happen! your dedication and obsession were the tools that moved a huge machine,....you're awesome!! Now I understand how the pyramids were built.

Aside from her dress what was she thinking , dressing a small child in black for a celebration?

by my children, tired of the eye rolling, the interruption of "Well, maybe you should see the other side ,when I pointed out the sexism, racism and how corruption feeds corruption in hierarchies of power. Sure I had them at home , without anesthesia so their mind would be clear and there psyches would be fully present , not stuck in some neurotic pattern of shutting down and one of them took up SMOKING!

Yes I sent them to Montessori school , going without furniture so they could experience the full power of their own capabilities and argued with my father who demanded they obey him BECAUSE HE SAID SO and I told him that I wanted my children to make their own decision so a world of the Nazis would never reoccur. Yes, I never hit them or even raged at them, because that is not the way they should learn to solve problems.

Yes I breast fed them for 3 years and didn't get them vaccinations so there bodies would be strong and it's true they never even had a cold. Yes I made them vegetarian dinners after working all day and now they avoid junk food on their own.

Yes I went to football when my son played , without any idea of what was going on in front of me, because that was his choice. Yes,as a single mother I somehow managed to scrap together horseback riding lessons for my daughter so she would be fearless..in fact sometimes she scares me with her courage.

I was bereft when they went off to their respective parts of the country to take jobs that challenged their minds and principles but so many people reassured me they left because I had done a good job. Somettimes I wish I had hobbled them a bit.

.I'd love to get a letter from them like Heather wrote... but more importantly they both supported Obama ,, neither joined the military and both give a damn about the world they live in. My work here is done.

You're not sleeping with your friend, therefore I think any advice you give will have little impact.Save your breath for congratulations. Many, many men are like this guy , even though they may live independently or make more money they are essentially drifting.... Many, many women do what it takes to make the family they want with the raw materials at hand. Thats how it is - who are you to write proper rules thousands of years into the game?

I think it is people like you who give the words uptight bourgeios a bad rap.

Cary, a kiss for your ear.( could it be from "listening" so many problems?)

I loved that you never progressed beyond busboy and aren't ashamed to say it. We all have our own gifts and the material world is not the only way to measure.

Emanuel is a militant advocate for free-trade policies; he was a point man in the White House in the fight to pass the North American Free Trade Agreement and similar deals that have been passionately opposed by the very labor, environmental and farm groups that were essential players in electing Obama. When he ran for Congress in 2002, major unions supported his Democratic primary opponent, former Illinois State Representative Nancy Kaszak.

Picking Emanuel would reassure Wall Street, but it won't give much comfort to Main Street.

It will also cause some head-scratching among Democrats who thought they were making a break not just with the Bush administration but with the compromises of the Clinton era.

Emanuel, a fearsome fund raiser, is closely aligned with the corporate-sponsored Democratic Leadership Council, the most "insider" of Washington-insider groups.

than the hundreds of stories we have heard come out of Rwanda, Dafur and the other parts of Africa where warlords kidnap children and mutilate and destroy everyone in their path.? Yes the accusation of rape is there , but the result is the same.