Sad that the media gives so much time to Ms Rielle. Where were they when John was talking about the two Americas, New Orleans , poverty and homeless vets.

These issues are no less important because John turns out to have been preoccupied. In fact they are even more deserving of attention , since he obviously wasn't able to give them his all even when he was talking about them.

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Of all people Oprah put on a great show yesterday on these issues. For the first time she wasn't blaming people's mindset for their hunger, homelessness and inability to manifest a high protein dinner with enough vegetables.( much less abundance and furntiure to eat it off of.)

We need to see more REAL stories of human life,not these manufactured morality tales, that want to lure us into the perils of wealth. We need to see the perils of the poverty and the potential that is being wasted all around us.

if this is your husbands attitude regarding the parents of someone he loves and he starting to see you in terms of your deficits rather than your assets( worked from poor background up to becoming a doctor, juggled school , work and wedding, making a huge effort to bridge the divide between the classes) I think your marriage is over before it's begun.

I can only imagine what his attitude will be when his patients don't eat the perfect diet or can't afford their meds. It's apparent that he didn't go into medicine because of his compassion!

Don't have children with this man- if this stuff doesn't clear up with some counseling in the next year cut your losses and a lot of heartache. If you should divorce this man down the road

he will take everything ,including the kids , while his parents foot the bill for the best attorney..

BTW - you should be helping out your folks , not having them pay your wedding...

I'll never forget the shame of being in Sunday school while visiting my grandparents and being asked if we knew what salvation was. Well acquainted as i was, I said - "you mean the Salvation Army- we have dinner there sometimes."There was a long silence .

My mother worked fulltime, .Why did we feel shame ? 42% of single moms and kids live below the poverty level, so it seems to be quite common.What kind of country not only doesn't pay a living wage but also doles out shame and stigmatization for not being able to get by ?

I did't watch the debate- knowing that Obama wants to subsidize religious groups with taxpayer money is enough to make me gag. Talk about special interest groups!

Are they going to debate in front of birdwatchers, nurses, surfers and Frito eaters? We are facing the destruction of the planet because Christians believe God has gven man dominion over nature and he is drunk with greed and the power . We are facing bio, nano and nuclear technologies. Abortion will be a passing phase as we move into cloning Few of us have the info to understand the consequences of these powerful technologies.and the answers won't be found in the Bible. So why are the presidential candidates trying to measure up to the vagaries of a 2000 year legend ?

Absurd!

Frances McDormand in Fargo. There i wrote it , it's been bugging me for days - that feeling of "she looks so famialiar, "

You think death won't recognize you with big boobs and tribal tatoos?You think if you hang out with different, faster people death will pass you by, as it heads for your old haunts? You think if death goes to your parents house and knocks ,and they haven't seen you in a while it'll settle for the cat?

I'm not sure why all the things you want to do, can't be done while staying grounded amongst those who care for you, those who held their breath and crossed their fingers that you would make it . Take a world tour. Quit your job and go to grad school .People who aren't looking death in the face agonize over such decisions every day-( hence cary's column)

There are many kinds of death, most of the time we don't know that ,until we've been awakened( to our own irritability ). It's only revolutionary if in fact YOU see it was YOU , keeping yourself boxed in. Maybe you've seen how little you settled for. But that was YOUR decision...then and it's all your decision now, just like it's aways been.

You will die, your parents will die, your husband will die, your friends will die. There's no escape for them either. Considering that ,you might want to be a little tender to the people you have shared life with.