Obama"s cave in on FISA ,( a nod to how he'll deal with corporations and just how lightly he considers the citizenry), backtrack on NAFTA & reproductive rights, the pile of bodies under his bus and his unwillingness to confront anything stronger than slights to his wife are precursors to how he'll preside. The first term will begin campaign 2012 and in 2012 he'll be looking for donors to fund his library.(yawn)

the only change we'll get with Obama is his historicity and thats just why the DNC chose him...

it 's not necesssarily what they'll find, its what they'll put on it - and then indict you for whatever the hell they want. ot maybe they'll put do something that connects it to their files so they can survey you ever after.

I think we'll be safer writing on the inside of our shirt and up and down our arms.

I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling

I minimize, alter, or deny how I truly feel.

I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well-being of others.

I have difficulty making decisions.

I judge everything I think, say, or do harshly, as never “good enough.”

I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts.

I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires.

I value others’ approval of my thinking, feelings, and behaviors over my own.

I do not perceive myself as a lovable or worthwhile person

I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others’ anger.

I am sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same.

I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.

I value others’ opinions and feelings more than my own and am often afraid to express differing opinions and feelings of my own.

I put aside my own interests and hobbies in order to do what others want.

I believe most people are incapable of taking care of themselves.

I attempt to convince others of what they “should” think and how they “truly” feel.

I become resentful when others will not let me help them.

I freely offer others advice and directions without being asked.

I lavish gifts and favors on those I care about.

I have to be “needed” in order to have a relationship with others.

Its the death ... OF YOU, as you were for her.If you didn't have a lot of other priorities in your life it may seem like the death of everything you are. Its going to hurt for a long time - gut wrenching pain that overcomes you at odd times( i remember hearing "our song" at the DMV months later and breaking down.) It'll feel like breathing with a dagger in your gut .

I've read some timetable that puts recovery at about half the time you were together. There's no way around it, the remedies like drugs and hedonism just delay getting over it and can make you incapable of ever healing enough to be intimate again.You need to know this so you don't run away from the pain , but run INTO it. Get to know that pain like a dogged companion because it's jus a precursor to the things that will be coming your way now and then. It can teach you to love and care for yourself no matter what. It is going to break your heart open , if you let ,it to incredible love and compassion for all those going through their own lives of suffering just like you.

Be very kind to yourself

.Read Pema Chodron.

Obama has not really differentiated himself. By moving to the center instead of making a case for the issues the Repugs have fouled up - ( torture, the war, the Mideast, the economy, Katrina, FISA, deregulation,NCLB, and corporate giveaways) Obama has not educated the public on how things could and should be different.

As for the ads - I have yet to seee one ( is it because Tx is assumed to be a given?) , so I'm wondering if they are really that impactful on the populace. The daily MSM has had much more effect, meaning the Wright episode and the clinging to guns and god remarks.

Its stupid to go after McCains age considering older voters are a powerful voting bloc.

I wasn't sure . But after reading the letters I have to say the ex-wives have convinced me...

Let her Know!

Wasn't there a book by that name - you probably don't have to read it to get the gist.

Self hate is just as narcissitic as self love.... and just as selfish.Your husband needs to come to that realization somehow.But your constant reassurance is not going to take him there.

At some point you have to realize you are doing him more harm than good.

Maybe you need to seperate for a while- , not a seperation where you call and talk about the relationship or your inner quandries., but a friendly "I'll call you in three months" seperation. Look at it as a spiritual retreat. Take a break from recovering and learn to see the world with fresh and curious eyes.It might be good to spend time somewhere you have to exert yourself to live, like going without a car or chopping wood.

You guys need AIR

Maybe you should take your own advice, Joe. Let bygones be bygones. I just came a from a blog where Obama supporters applauded Obama for cutting Charles Rangel out of speaking., with a viciousness that was scary.

Charles Rangel voted against the war, And against FISA. He is a stalwart Dem who pulled in $19.5 million this year for the party , but Obamabots have only one lense thru which to veiw anybody...and very long memories. They embody the opposite of Unity . LET IT GO and lets turn on the Repugs with the same vigor you seem to reserve only for Hilary & supporters..