Letters to the Editor
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Published Letters: 16 Editor's Choice: 1
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Obviously....
[Read the article: I'm a small-town girl dreaming of the big-city lights]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]...you should run! DO NOT marry this man! DO NOT condemn yourself to a life of frustration and misery! I'm sure you knew the answer before you even wrote Cary; you will never be able to make this man change, and why would you even want to supress your desire for a better life? You would clearly end up broken inside, suffering from severe depression, with no one to blame but yourself. You have no kids; dogs and cats and books can be moved; money can be saved, houses can be sold, engagements can be broken. What are you waiting for? Get the hell out while you still can!
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The thief
[Read the article: WayLay]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]It's unclear to me why the subject of this cartoon has to be a thief. Couldn't ANYONE become obsessed with getting a coin to land on its edge? Can anyone enlighten me?
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Trolls
[Read the article: The art of the pickup]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Why bother responding to the Mr. Anonymous who keeps posting insulting (and sometimes unintelligable) comments? Go to Wikipedia and look up "troll", already! Just ignore him! Such comments are not worthy of response. In getting so upset, you're just giving him what he wants.
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The Game
[Read the article: The art of the pickup]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I had never heard of "The Game" prior to this post, but now I am going to go out and buy myself a copy.
It's funny; many men dream of attracting unlimited numbers of women, but the idea of trying to do something practical about this fantasy often seems creepy and adolescent. Just look at those ridiculous Axe body spray commercials.
But honestly, if being yourself is just not working, I don't know that I see anything wrong with trying to charm someone into bed. I wish it wasn't necessary, of course, but if being a nice guy getting isn't getting you any dates, perhaps it's time to employ some desperate measures. Generally, I believe in honesty, but if teasing someone (or ignoring them or whatever) makes someone more interested in you, then why not do it?
I hate to generalize, but it has been my experience that men who act like cocky assholes tend to attract more women. So if imitating their assholishness gets me a few more dates, maybe that would not be such a bad thing.
I have had many female friends, by the way, all of whom cursed me with the deadly label of "nice guy". After listening compassionately to a female friend's problems, for example, I was told that I am not a "real man" (this being a compliment, of course), meaning, I suppose, that I don't act like other men she knows (and dates!). I am the kind of guy that women have felt comfortable sleeping in the same bed with without having to worry that I'd try something. It has been my experience that most women just don't respect this kind of behavior in potential dates. Just as women still face the angel/whore dichotomy, men face the nice guy/bad boy dichotomy. The appeal of "bad boys" is hard to compete with. I am saddened to think that I would have to repress my natural instincts to be gentle and sympathetic with macho bullshit, but nice guys need sex too! (OK, I guess I am a little bitter...)
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Don't hate the playa...
[Read the article: The art of the pickup]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]...hate the game!
Relax, Brightstar. I am a little bitter myself, as I said in my previous post, but things are not as bad as all that! For the most part, at least, no-one is trying to punish anyone. It's nice to vent a little and kvetch about not getting enough, but let's not get too carried away. A lot of women act like jerks, a lot of men act like jerks; I'm sure it's frustrating for some women to watch men go after hot but insipid women just as it is frustrating for some men to watch some women date assholes.
It's fun to over-generalize sometimes, and it's nice to be able to point to something other than your own social ineptitude or unattractiveness as an excuse for being rejected by the opposite sex (I know I enjoy it!). But each individual woman is not a representative of some evil feminist conspiricy to make men suffer. So just chill, my friend.
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Huh?
[Read the article: The art of the pickup]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]OK, now your just baiting me, Brightstar. I consider myself a feminist. I'm only too glad that gender roles have changed considerably, even over the course of my lifetime. I would hate to have to live up to some archaic definition of what it means to be a man. I'm glad to have more options than my father did in that respect. If anything, my complaint is that the arrogance, cockiness and machismo that characterize the traditional male sterotype are still so much desired, apparently, by so many women.
I also recognize that I am not powerless in my interaction with the opposite sex. Yes, women have choices, but men have choices, too. If some women don't respect me as a "real man" because I'm gentle and nurturing, I don't have to keep spending time with them. Some women are capable of appreciating such men(though they really do seem to be the exception, in my experience).
I just felt like whining a bit in my first post, because it IS frustrating to feel that you would be more attractive to a greater number of women if you acted like a prick. It's hard to know how you should act towards women sometimes, because there has been a void left by the erosion of traditional gender roles, and we are all in the process of re-defining what it means to be men and women. But you seem seriously bitter about it. Take a step back, and recognize that people are individuals as well as representatives of social trends. Women may TEND to do this, that or the other thing, but each individual woman (or man) is different.
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So funny!
[Read the article: The K Chronicles]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]You're the best, Keef! I love your strip so much! Keep up the great work.