Goodness gracious, you are funny! I'm from Wisconsin originally so I get you!

For all I know what you really suffer from is constipation and are just pissed in general at the U.S. Govt for doing so many stupid things lately. However, if you do have "sinus" headaches, they may very well be migraines.

Many people who think they have sinus headaches actually do have migraines. I was one of them. Took enough antihistamines so that when I actually left Wisconsin, I had dried up to four pounds. In Texas, my doc gave me the new (then) migraine aborters and I was good to go! I've been in control of those damn headaches ever since!

Also used to eat in my sleep. Peanut butter crackers on ones face is pretty tacky to say nothing to the extra calories! Got that fixed too and haven't been out of the refrigerator in the middle of the night for 15 years. Maybe we're cousins?

Barbara

Something that might work for you is going to a suicide support group. These groups are usually comprised of people who have lost a family member to suicide and are run by a survivor who has been trained and/or a mental health professional. They usually run about eight weeks and are a place to talk about your own experiences, if you like, with others who actually know what you are talking about. No one understands like another survivor.

There is usually lots of information given about grief in a suicide death which can be different than grief in death by disease, old age or even an auto accident/other trauma. The American Association of Suicide has listings by state of well established suicide support groups.

http://www.suicidology.org/displaycommon.cfm?an=1&subarticlenbr=55

I use to co-facilitate one of these groups for seven years and know how helpful the members said they were. There are no magic solutions to the pain and especially the deaths by suicide of two parents but with the help of friends, family therapists and others who have walked in your shoes, you can get to the other side of the pain. I've seen it happen.

Take care of yourself. Make sure you have someone helping you look after yourself. You may have some genetic depression or bi-polar disease in your family that could pop up in you or other family member and will need treatment. You are valuable and special and didn't deserve or cause this in ANY way!

Warm regards, Barbara

I have two great adopted children from the olden days when adoptions were closed. I always ached for the birth Mothers and wondered about how they were coping. With my full support, my daughter found her birth Mother when she was 30. It was very important to her for many reasons as it would be for me if I was adopted. She has become a great comfort to my/her daughter and we have so enjoyed welcoming her to the family. She told us stories of the pain of her young life during and after the process of giving up her baby daughter.It still brings tears to my eyes.

Her birth Mom has two other young adult kids who are bi-racial (my daughter is Caucasian) who share many features and characteristics with my daughter. They are all delightful and I love spending time with them.

My adult son has no interest in finding his birth family, even though I have always left that door wide open. It is his life and none of my business now. Yet I wonder......

Alcoholics, either those who have stopped drinking without a real recovery program or those that continue to slip are rigid and blinkered. They also have anger control problems and many of Bush's other weaknesses.

His work and military history did not prepare him to be a successful president and those who promoted him and then voted for him twice should have known better if they had used any critical thinking skills. If up to this point, he hadn't been successful in his work life, what made anyone think he would be successful in the biggest job in the world? Skills are skills, folks. They just don't magically appear, they are built over time with experience, hard knocks and success. His experiences were mostly negative and he had little success.

Now, I'll grant you, he had some success as governor of Texas. However, we have a weak governor position so he can't do too much one way or the other. In addition, his biggest mentor and friend was a Democrat who guided him and helped him be bi-partisan in getting things done. That's where the "uniter, not a divider" came from. Of course all that went away with his new neocon mentors and the world hasn't been the same since.

Whitney has a disease. Her long term use has by now changed the pathways in her brain and sobriety from just the cocaine is only about 60% likely. When you add the other drugs she probably uses, her chance for a relapse is probably 100%. Therefore, she will need the help of some of the newer medications to help her deal with the cravings that are physiologically caused by the changes in her brain wiring. Recovery is always possible but much more complicated than just stopping, even with detox for someone who uses cocaine and together with other drugs.

I, too am surprised that her daughter has not been placed with a sober family member. She is being emotionally abused at home. Usually the state steps in and asks a family member to take over the parenting duties until both parents are stable.