Hmmm... he is not a six year old: and you are not a six year old either: to expect hugs and kisses when you return home.

Are you such a kid to expect your husband to run over to you and welcome you with a wagging tail when you return home after your jaunts?

Grow up woman. You always wanted "freedom", "liberal attitudes", "equality" etc., from men. But when you have to extend it to men, you seem quite upset and resort to insults.

If you say he is a child, then you are too: to expect him to welcome you back. He is not a Dog. He is a human.

Treat him like a husband and a human for once and shove your liberal attitudes up yours.

Probably then the marriage will work.

But then you are too proud, independent to take that step i guess: Promising your husband something special when you return is slavery according to the liberal books you have been reading. Pray, tell me, why do you expect something material from him on Valentines day and Anniversary, Birthdays, etc? isn't that slavery?

Too proud, too independent, too ramrod straight to make a marriage work.

Your husband has been patient with you for long: he obviously wants you back. take time off your stupid work and treat him like a King for day: You lose nothing. Men expect that. (Just like you liberal women expect him to open doors and hold out chairs for you). Start insulting and start spouting liberal attitudes, poof, there goes your marriage.

Think what you want most and decide: You can't have both.

Face it: that's life. Ask your grandparents for advice instead of marriage counselors who care a damn about you.

Tell me Afro Goddess, would you suggest the same thing if the roles were reversed?

What if the husband who travels for long times, and writes to Salon stating that he feels neglected, shouted upon, by a controlling, neorotic "wife"? Would you recommend to the husband that he leave this crazy woman for good?

Your response probably would be to reinforce the poor woman's fears and hint darkly that her husband is having an "affair" with his boss/secretary and once again suggest that she leave this "cheating", "crazy", "liar" husband.

Hmmm... why is it that when a man is possessive you term it as nutcase, but when a woman is possessive you term it as "love"?

Think about it, while you are reading another of the women's lib books written by lonely authors who hate life.

Whoa!!! He's cheating on Her????

Whoa! I knew women were always irrational and unexplainable, but you take the cake.

Because he's jealous and wants some love, he is having an affair???

What if the roles were reversed @highland girl? What if its the husband who's the traveling one while the wife is pouting, silent when he returns home?

Am pretty sure you would again say he's having an affair: even though this time he's the one who suffering from "her" treatment.

And you girls wonder why 90% of the marriages end up in divorce...

he is just love-sick: treat him like a king for a day, stuff the work up your boss.. and do something special for him, instead of garroting him.

Leaving him is not the solution: I bet you have been through 3 marriages so far and are still wondering why you can't find "true" love...like Rachel Green.

You will never find it in a court.

Love demands sacrifices and this man's been sacrificing his life a lot to be with his wife, who thinks her work is more important that her life.

I would suggest to the husband he leave her and cite her for mental abuse. Plus it wouldn't hurt if he hires a private detective to check her out: She's probably having an affair, and if proven in a court of law, he can escape the inevitable alimony.

Thanks for your politer response to my [no doubt] angry outburst. Sometimes the pen gets the better of me.. sorry about that.

Am just saying this guy is just trying to hang on to what h thinks is a failing marriage: i mean put yourself in his shoes for one second; alone a lot, wife travelling a lot, not picking up the phone, when she picks it up all he hears is music (like in a club), etc., Who would not think the worst.

Both need to move closer to each other. And she needs to take a first step: Take leave, show it him that he is more important than that "office boss", and spend some quality time with him; a weekend to a B&B in vermont would do wonders. After that "treatment" he would worry a lot less about marriage and would be glad to receive her at airport knowing well that things are fine.

Puhleease...stop prostelyzing. Makes me throw up.

Its not some random guy: Its her husband. She would have thought a long time before marrying.

Plus why do confuse between a career and a life? Men never do that. For men, Career is where you earn the money. Life is where you spend it. Period. Career is not life, and can never replace a happily married life. You can't snuggle in bed with your corporate. You can't snuggle and arm-wrestle when you like. You can't stay in bed all day, and expect your corporate to bring you food to your bed, because you are too 'tired' worn out or plain just want it.

You can't goto a romantic dinner or watch "You've Got Mail" a hundredth time holding hands with your corporate.

Lastly if she had wanted to cut and run, she would not have come to Cary for advice.