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What a treat to read Mr Keillor's article on my birthday, and to remind me and all readers of the joy of seeing performance art in all its live glory. I saw Beckett's Happy Days recently - and while like Eugene Onegin not a cheerful tale, uplifting nonetheless for the quality of the performance, and the way live performance holds your attention and makes you think.
Everybody who has put money in the stock market in the last few years is in your boat. There is normally nothing risky about your investment strategy: my husband and my investments are down at least 50%, as are my elderly aunt and uncle, a much more serious situation, as they are retired.
To put your situation in perspective, I have just finished reading the biography of the Duchess of Dorchester (recently made into a movie with Keira Knightly) She constantly had to go to her husband - and others - to get herself out of debt, and this was due to compulsive gambling!- not a sensible investment, such as yours, that went awry. Once she 'fessed up, she felt better, although her husband, quite rightly, was furious.
Cary's advice is spot-on: use the financial adviser as the forum for clearing the air; you will feel great relief, and your husband will probably react with more sympathy than you expect. Good luck!