Letters to the Editor
mmstewart
Published Letters: 4 Editor's Choice: 2
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I Don't Understand Men - nor does Cary!
[Read the article: I don't understand men!]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]OK - I know men are very sensitive creatures, but in exchange for us not continually brow-beating you for every feeling - we should be able to expect men to be up front when they either 1) change their minds about their feeling or 2) Freak out. Your writer was not wrong for expecting some "heat" in his visit. If you polled 100 people and gave them the set up to the weekend (including as many of his friends as you could find) 99 would likely be VERY surprised that he planned a weekend with her after months of flirty chit chat and then HE acted offended that she thought some naughtiness was in store. If the roles were reversed SHE would be a terrible tease and labeled as such. Your writer deserved more than being told to go find a lover. This was not a failure on her part - I am really disappointed that you choose such a funky path for someone who looked to you for some gender insight.
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K-Fed? Honestly
[Read the article: Fed up]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I am really disappointed that Salon wasted a reporter and space on this jerk. I read the article thinking that if you bothered to interview this guy you would have at least done something worthy.
The reported makes a point to ask about other talented under publicized artist that have not had the attention of Mr. Federline, why not interview them. I expect better.
Isn't his 15 minutes up? MMS
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The Aunts in my family made all the difference
[Read the article: Do I have to be a mommy to "opt out"?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I was (am) blessed knowing 2 great women who never had children but who acted as a great support system for the family. Two of my great aunts never had children, I am not sure why, but I know these ladies are / were (one has passed away) beloved by their nieces, nephews and great nieces and nephews. Aunt Sallie was the back-up babysitter for 2 generations and I think at her death more family members sought out mementos from her home than they did for the death of our grandmother (who was also loved) We all loved her home and felt a great privilege in returning the love she showed us to care for her in her last years. Aunt Bert is still living and deeply loved, and an odd bridge between my divorced parents and their spouses.
The love of an aunt is just as unconditional as that of a parent, with the added feeling of an ally who is there by choice.
Both ladies were older when my first memories start so I don't know how they feel or felt about not having children, no matter - being a "great" aunt is a blessing and nothing to be concerned about.
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The 'disorder defense' may be too late...
[Read the article: I can't get to work on time no matter what]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]LW, I will not comment on the honesty issue that seemed to escape Cary's suggestion. If you want to claim a medical condition, it should be diagnosed first. However 5 months into the assignment it may be too late to try and excuse the tardiness issue with a medical one. If you pursue this, recognize that your manager and the agency that placed you (if there is one) may perceive it as a lame excuse to cover your lack of ability, commitment or desire to be on time.
I have been in your boss’s position and would like to offer a counterview to what you have deemed an arbitrary rule. The importance of my team members arriving on time was not just random; it was part of the employment agreement. When I had a team member I could not trust to be on time, everyday, I had to wonder where else corners were being cut or "close enough" was passing. Not on the big things, but on the small, things I would not typically have to check on or follow-up with. Being on-time reflected to me the character of the employee to do things right - not only in instances of critical importance, but everyday, every time. What is your response going to be if you are hired, and then passed for advancement or choice opportunities because of 25 minutes a week?
When you accepted the position and the accompanying salary, you agreed to this and the other rules. You expect very specific things from your employer, this is not unreasonable for them to expect of you. No matter how talented, artistic or special you believe yourself to be, sorry.