I lost my virginity at 19 to a casual aquaintance - I was just ready to get on with it. I did not warn him and I'm glad I didn't. We were together only twice, he was a sweet guy but I knew it would be a short relationship. I never regretted not telling him and I have no idea if he figured it out (my bed). It made it easier to move on and have fulfilling sexual relationships. I didn't meet my true mate until I was 22 - I'd have sure missed out on a lot of great experiences if I'd waited for it to be perfect.

If you are planning on losing it with someone you really care about, you might consider telling him, but otherwise I agree completely with Cary. It wasn't a big deal to me then and I think I would have been hurt had I tried to find someone to make it special or if I'd had high expectations for the experience. It's a little uncomfortable but paves the way for fabulous sex thereafter! Good luck and have fun.

I can't for the life of me figure out how Imus has, as Conason and others keep hammering, managed to "damage millions of others with his pathological ranting." This is the premise on which everyone keeps defending the idea that it is OK to call for nationwide protests for his utterance of a common racial epithet.

By pushing this false premise we are giving Imus way more power and credit than he deserves and it undermines the struggle for racial equality and harmony.

I am disgusted by the media outlets who have breathed life into this otherwise non-story - they are the ones who have truly damaged the Rutgers players by keeping that slanderous phrase at the forefront of everyone's minds.

Free speech HAS to be free speech for all for equality to have any respectable meaning.

Is it already blame the victim time in this tragedy? I thought that was Fox News' domain - even they usually wait 24 hours.

Who's in charge over there? 10,000 Monkeys with 10,000 typewriters?

You are at (if not beyond) midlife and you're in crisis, specifically about what might have been/could be. So yeah you're in a very classic midlife crisis. If you are going to reveal truth and insight through music, start by seeing it in yourself.

Amen and hell yes.

While I really do admire my friends who seem to be wonderful, patient, supportive parents, every once in a while it seems like perhaps the bald truth could illustrate a point much better than a coddling white lie.

I was never spanked but in my family the truth (ugly or not) was prized above all. It was hard and sometimes hurtful but as an adult with some perspective I am grateful to be able to look objectively at myself and be realistic about my goals and abilities.

We all have to function together in this society and I truly believe that those who are gifted can overcome a little name calling. It's nice to get inspiration and support from your family but if everything is good, then nothing is good.

I had a cat very much like this once as an apartment dweller. Bit me within 1mm of my jugular one time. Attacked visitors. Pooped smack in the middle of our bed when he was mad at us. Had a warning sticker on his vet record. As soon as we moved to a house with a yard we let him become an indoor/OUTDOOR cat and he was reformed. Turned into a delightful cat. Was even fine with our kids when we had them. He was a bit of a hunter for a few years but not terrible.

I just don't think most cats are meant to be trapped inside. If you can't let him out then the farm idea is perfect. He will do fine. It doesn't take training for them to figure out what to do. We even lived at a busy intersection and he somehow never got hit by a car - more luck that smarts probably.

Good luck to you and the cat.

seems to me to be the question of whether or not breast milk that has been pasteurized (and/or frozen) still contains the beneficial antibodies and proteins intact. It seems unlikely to be the case and I am unclear as to the benefit otherwise of sending "processed" breast milk.

Because carpooling to events with a full SUV is more efficient than 2 or 3 cars going to the same place. We bought our SUV specifically for carpooling to our kids events - swim practice, dance classes, to and from school. It makes so much more sense and even more lovely getting some free time on your off days (when your other friends with SUVs take their turn).