LW - I can think of two reasons to tell your daughter about your ex's abortions:

1- Because you want her to know that you understand how mistakes are made, you want to help her avoid the mistakes you made and you want her to know she can come to you if mistakes should occur.

2- You want to spill it to her before your ex does, thus making your ex look bad in her daughter's eyes for not being the one who told her and most likely pissing her off to no end.

If your reasoning is #1, Cary is right, it is not for you to tell her.

If your reasoning is #2, Cary is right, it is not for you to tell her. And you're an asshole.

Notice that either way, IT IS NOT YOUR STORY TO TELL. Like you said, it was not your feet in the stirrups. It was not your pain. Your daughter does not need to know that badly. You can show her you are understanding in other ways.

OK, "physical pain".

Wow, Cary. Good answer. I loved your angle. However, LW, get some professional health also. Consult a child psychologist on your own. Because Cary's approach is great, but it's not enough. Your daughter is already injuring herself in response to life's stresses and even with the celebration, the stresses are only going to get worse. Puberty's going to be a bitch. Have someone to guide your through it.

The HR person is not interested in an accurate diagnosis of the ills of your old company, they want to make sure you're not bringing a heaping mountain of bitterness to the new job.

Exactly. When I interview people (small business, not a corporate environment) all my warning signals go off when a candidate starts badmouthing his/her last job or boss. At best, it shows poor common sense and I don't want to hire someone without common sense. At worst, I have a delusional and bitter potential employee. Neither is appealing. When a candidate says to me "it was time we went our separate ways because my vision did not mesh with theirs" it tells me that there were problems and this person handled it professionally and appropriately. Well, maybe he didn't, but he's smart enough to know what professionally and appropriately would be.

If the LW can get a carefully-worded written reference from the guy who admitted he was the fall guy, it would also help a lot.

It's all about being informed. And those who think that having a doctor or a midwife means having a fully medicalized impersonal birth are just as misinformed as those who think that there's no other options outside of epidurals and fetal heart monitors.

I can't imagine ever risking my sexual organs and future sexual pleasure unnecessarily.

Um, since when does an episiotomy risk your sexual organs and sexual pleasure? Not that I'm advocating for you to have one, but I'm not sure what the above statement has to do with it. And let's face it, child-birth is never going to be risk-free whether you have a c-section or not. If you're looking for guarantees for your body, look into adoption!

An elective c-section is a guarantee that there will be no vaginal tearing.

You're right. I guess it didn't occur to me that this would be anyone's primary concern when giving birth.

I had an episiotomy with my first child. It was hands-down the best moment of the entire labor. Luckily, we all have choices.

Oh well - at least today's brides aren't wearing the fluffy extravaganzas which were popular when I was married in the 90's. I bought the only dress I could find which didn't look like cake frosting!

Yuck! I remember it all too well. I got married in '91, it was almost impossible to find a dress that didn't have puffy sleeves the size of a small child! And then the big full skirt on top of it, you're so right about looking like a giant fluff of frosting. And there was no middle ground then, I had to end up having a dress made (much more economical!) to avoid it all. I'm not sure the current trend of sausage casing dresses with brides stuffed into them is any better, at least those puffy dressed hid some things.

Maybe a pile of crap in the Meadowlands is just a pile of crap in the Meadowlands. The location has been used before in the show and the Meadowlands is a dominant part of the Northern NJ landscape. Really, it's the logical place to dump asbestos if you've got it!

Older & Wiser: all season I've been saying "when is Audrey going to die so Jack can find a real woman?" I fully agree about the no chemistry. Jack would never be with a woman like that, mostly because he's a sociopath, I guess! ;)

I'm sure I wasn't alone in immediately proclaiming Audrey pregnant when she fainted. Has a woman ever fainted on a tv show who did not turn out to be pregnant? Lame narrative device, writers. Only my 14 year old didn't see it coming.

It is virtually impossible to have a meaningful discussion with him, or even an intelligent one.

'Nuf said.

Is geography really the point? I follow mid-east politics but I couldn't name all the countries on the map. Does that mean I can't have an opinion on Iran?

If office gossip is threatening the well-being of the workplace, the boss should speak to those involved individually. If they can't control themselves, they should be fired for creating a hostile workplace (if that indeed is what they are doing). No one should be fired for engaging in a "did you hear the rumor about Mr. Boss and Ms. X?" Discussing office gossip with a co-worker is not the same as knowingly spreading malicious lies around the office.

No mention of Michael Moore's new film Sicko? I'm curious.