And this rule is particularly asinine. But it depends who you are talking to. If the audience of the article is women who see dating as all a game to catch a man with the overall objective being a big wedding and the knowledge that you have escaped single-hood, than it probably makes sense. If you are talking to mature adults who enter into relationships based on respect and consider each other equals, then it's asinine.

I wonder which group has a higher divorce rate.

Thank you, John Anderson, for saying it so succinctly. And may I add, when you expand your circle, include some grown-ups. These "men" people are talking about who don't know their feelings, are slower to feel them and are scared by hearing "I love you" sound like they have the emotional maturity of your average 19 year old. Try a grown-up, they are quite satisfying.

I said I love you first. He didn't respond. That time.

We've been married for 18 years and he loves me to pieces (and vice versa)

Kennedy has been villified in the press for her, you know, problem speaking. Check how many YouTube videos there are of her saying "you know". How many news organizations reported on the problem. The New York Times counted the "you knows" at one point! They counted! She's also been criticized for her vague answers and lack of passion.

I see no double standard. I see no one in the press getting behind her in an unrealistic way. Palin had a greater number of opportunities to make mistakes than Kennedy has had and she took advantage of every one of them.

You can't say no one warned you.

Also, you don't mention your plans for having children, but the only thing worse than becoming this girl's stepmother would be to have a child with this man, who appears to be an utter failure as a parent.

"Being kind of unattractive physically, she might have problem falling in love and getting married."

Hasn't anyone else noticed the high number of unattractive married people in the world?

Sorry, Sarah. "I can see Russia from my house" is one of the funniest moments of 2008. We can't let that go anymore than this one: "I believe that marriage should be a sacred institution between two unwilling teenagers". Gold.

Also, the best way to let it go is to stop talking about it to the press.

Seriously, it's hard to find someone who thinks they have a good nose. Most people think their's is too big, too wide, oddly shaped, etc. If you get that perfect nose, you're really going to be in the minority.

I'm comfortably in the majority on this one.

Whatever you do, don't go to her and tell her you are uneasy and can't handle what she's doing. She's not trash talking people because she's sensitive to how others feel. You're likely to be her next victim for both showing your vulnerabilities and indirectly calling her on her bad behavior. It sounds like you're dealing with someone with some real professional boundary problems and you don't want to be her next target.

Cary's right - figure out her motivation and figure out how to change the subject unobtrusively or get out of the room when you can.

You won't impress anybody who rolls their eyes at "pollyannas", but there are lots of other people (perhaps even in other departments of your company) who will seek you out as someone they enjoyed dealing with.

And you'll be above the fray when the shit hits the fan for this woman.

I love him more every day.

There is good news here. Most people get married after a few sunny years of being in love and don't really know how they or their mate will act in times of stress and difficulty. That's when many marriages come apart. However you, dear LW, know exactly how your fiancee will act in times of stress and difficult - badly. Sure, she has every right to be bummed out that she's working hard and reaping no rewards but constant fights, throwing things, generally childish behavior? Not OK. Not adult. Not responsible.

You say that "I feel like things will improve once I have my degree" but do you really believe that? Really? If you do, you're very wrong. Degrees, like marriage does not improve anyone's character, disposition, or ability to cope. So what if she perks up when you graduate? What's she going to do down the road when there's a lay-off? A sick kid? A death in the family? Throw things and blame you?

The good news is you learned all this before making the mistake of getting married. Cut your losses and let her go - apparently she'll be so happy not be carrying your costs she'll be ok with it.

Hey, if it's this big a deal to you, don't call him. Let the relationship die. It's clearly not a relationship that means that much to you so you might as well save both of you the trouble. Perhaps that is what he's trying to find out.

I hope there are people in your life that if they had a request of you as a friend, you'd be willing to do it. Because real friends just don't make this big a deal out of such small things.

I'm no hopeless romantic but I know one thing: if the guy in question is not making you go "he's the one, I know it", then you shouldn't marry him. Anything less is settling. You're not convinced either of these guys is The One, so choose neither.