LW has walked out on a few receptionist jobs - who hasn't walked out of a bad job in the past? She turned down a good job in hopes of a better one and got neither. Bad judgment call, but sometimes that happens. I don't really see this as a pattern of someone who can't hold a job or is incapable of responsibility. It sounds more like it was more fun to write to Cary than to send out a resume. And I can appreciate that, applying for jobs sucks. But the LW shouldn't distract herself with a fictional problem/disorder in order to avoid actually looking for a job. The whole "problem" seems a little blown out of proportion.

I have the utmost sympathy for the writer - a screaming newborn is highly stressful. But I feel like I read a similar story every month and each time the person writing it says "no one ever said it would be like this" and "I thought as a Mother I was just suppose to know what to do". Actually, the stories about how stressful it is are all over the place. Oversaturation comes to mind. And if the childless pay a little attention to their friends with babies, they'll see no one is saying it's all a breeze. We simply don't see it when we don't have kids because we don't want to. Frankly, I read/hear stories like this way more than I encounter parents saying "it's all dream come true".

And yeah, I'll take the screaming infant over the teenager any day. Now that's stressful. Parenting is the hardest most demanding job you'll ever have. Don't say no one warned you.

How about examining why parents draw such wrath from the childless?

One day being costumey is bad, one day it's a winner. The judges need to make up their mind. Christian was picked as the winner long ago - that's why Chris March was constantly criticized for being "costumey" and Christian is given the win for being even more costumey. Those clothes weren't wearable, had no commercial appeal, and were very boring colors. All things the judges have claimed are important in the past. But they wanted Christian so they made sure they got him.

I know this is a TV show first and foremost so it's really all about making it good drama, but I have a gripe about how much of the judging they show us. Last night was typical and inexcusable - after all those weeks, all those designs on the runway, the big show and we get what? 2 minutes of what the judges think. And they deliberately leave out what they really think so that we won't figure out who won before the commercial break.

From where I was sitting, most of the judges criticism last night was directed at Christian. He had a lot of negatives. Rami had very few and even Jillian wasn't really taken to task (who they clearly liked the least). I realize the point is to throw the viewer off until The Big Reveal, but honestly after all we've watched, don't we deserve to hear the judges real opinions in a little detail? Or are we doomed to be treated like Reality TV viewers forever? (don't answer that)

This is so insulting to both men and women. I'm so glad I'm not in a relationship with a man so fragile that opening the pickle jar makes him feel important. I'm guessing he's relieved that he's not with a woman who is playing games with his emotions to manipulate him.

I'm an independent woman but I still need my husband. I need his love, his support, his companionship and his advice. Not everyday-all-the-time, but still. That's what happens when you've been in a relationship a long time, you come to rely on each other for things. People in a healthy relationship need each other for real things, not as game to prop up one another up.

Where did they find the teenage girls who didn't have strained mother-daughter relationships?

I'm not just being snarky here. Strained relationship with your mother (in some degree or another) is par for the course in the teen years, even healthy to some extent. Using this study's criteria, you could link almost any behavior - positive or negative - with strained mother-daughter relationships.

It bears repeating. Telling your wife in the hope to assuage your guilt would be the most selfish thing to do here. If you told your wife it would be for all the wrong reasons - because you think it would make you feel better. It will just give you a new problem - an angry, hurt wife and potentially a divorce. This would not help your situation at all.

LW has kept an enormous secret from his wife for years, and if he truly wants a good healthy marriage, it needs to be based on honesty. Yes, she'll be hurt. That's life. Better to be hurt by the truth than live with lies.

There may be reasons for the LW to tell his wife, but easing his own guilt and hoping to stop his bad karma are not any of them. And I'm not sure letting her know that she was betrayed and lied to (while she was sick) is really going to put them on the path to a good healthy marriage. Sometimes telling is the right thing to do, but I don't see that it will help the current problem in any way.