Letters to the Editor
HesterEastman
Published Letters: 210 Editor's Choice: 21
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This isn't particularly shocking
[Read the article: Hair removal for the preteen set]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This explains why my 11 year old daughter asked me about Nair. I told her it stunk and it didn't work well, my memories from about 25 years ago.
Everyone's talking about girls not needing to shave their legs. What about the pits? There are 10 year old with significant underarm hair and a culture that does not appreciate it. If we adult women can't avoid razors & Nair, why should a 10 year old who has to face playground teasing? At least when I don't shave I don't have to worry about some mean girl pointing it out to everyone at lunchtime.
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Well, if the celebrities are doing it!
[Read the article: A white wedding for mommies-to-be?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Maybe I need to read the original article, but is this pusher of maternity-wear really suggesting that getting married while pregnant is a new trend inspired by celebrities? I don't want to appear to be a gossip, but I've heard a few stories of people marrying when the woman was pregnant that pre-dated Jennifer Garner. Perhaps the marketing department at this company is just trying legitimize a former taboo in order to - gasp - sell dresses.
P.S. I always heard that the color white was a symbol of joy in ancient Greece and thus, the beginning of why it was used in bridal dresses. The virginity thing came later.
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Never faced hardship?
[Read the article: I resent my fiancé because he is rich]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]The fiance is not the problem, the LW and her serious money issues are the problem. She states that she can't trust him now that she knows "he's never faced hardship". Assuming that someone who has come from money has never faced hardship tells a LOT about how the LW. Cary's right, she needs to figure out her own feelings about money for this relationship to work.
We all know that money is one of the major causes of couples fighting. For this couple it will likely come up in such issues as where to live, what kind of house to buy, how to raise the children, and who spends on what. These are all serious hot spots for fighting. The LW should definitely work through her issues before getting married.
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Shame on Nolita
[Read the article: Fashion weak]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This ad, creepy as it is, will do nothing to help anorexics nor anyone who spends their time worshiping celebrity bodies. This is a sensational, pathetic stab at publicity, and Nolita got it. Very little awareness will be raised, but everyone will notice their ad. If they wanted to really make a point they would put her in an airbrushed, clothed, ad right next to this one as someone else suggested. That would make a statement.
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Mixed emotions
[Read the article: Afghanistan's next top model]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]I'm happy to see women stepping forward and asserting their rights in the "new" Afghanistan. I hope that in that country modeling doesn't mean undernourished 18 year olds in skimpy clothing. After all, modeling by definition does not need to mean exploitation, it just so happens that's how we do it in the west. It may be an extreme way to "take off the burqa" but sometimes extreme measures have to be taken in order to advance a cause and get change rolling. I do hope it's safe.
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Dove ad
[Read the article: Roundup: Severe PMS, the politics of breast milk and more]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Great spot. Now, if Dove will stop running ads for beauty products in which all the women are in their underwear, they'd have more credibility.
Five to ten seconds? Give me a break. This girl/woman is giving rape victims a bad name.
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Love & Denial
[Read the article: I'm cheating on my husband and loving it. Is that a problem?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]This is a woman so seriously in denial I wouldn't know where to start. Or perhaps I do: "I love my husband and I'm very happy with him". You don't betray people you truly love. Someone this self-involved probably isn't capable of true love. Someone who describes themselves as a "lapper" (once you have a word for it, you know you're in trouble), is not a feeling, caring person. This person is an opportunist and opportunists only look out for themselves. There's no room for love there.
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Women today are too independent to be bothered by this
[Read the article: Asking Dad for her hand in marriage ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]If this is indeed happening, it's because women are independent enough not to be threatened by it. They aren't threatened by their fiance making a sweet, old-fashioned gesture because that's what it is - just a revived tradition. No one who does this expects Dad to say no, it's unlikely that the couple has not discussed marriage before the man goes to Dad, and it's unlikely that any part involves thinks the woman is chattel that Dad has to give permission to give away.
It's the same as when my Dad walked me down the aisle. I had been living in another state, financially independent from him for 8 years. No one at the wedding - me, Dad the Groom or the guests - were under any delusion that he was literally giving control of me over to my husband. It's just a tradition. While this one's not for me, there is a place for tradition
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Don't couples make the decision together first?
[Read the article: Asking Dad for her hand in marriage ]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Asking parents beforehand is the worst though. Now not only has one person not even been included in the decision making when the other decides to ask you to marry them, having other people know about it before you is just using group pressure to influence their decision.
Can we really assume in this day and age that engagements happen by surprise? I would think that proposals that happen without any prior discussion about marriage or long-term commitment would be pretty rare. That's why this tradition doesn't offend me, it's just an old-fashioned formality for a couple who has already made the decision. If it is really taking the place of a couple deciding together whether to marry, it is definitely a red flag.