Letters to the Editor
Ballsee
Published Letters: 233 Editor's Choice: 19
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Get a Life
[Read the article: Should I tell his wife he's gay?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Many years ago, when I was just 17, I wrote a letter to a NYC gay publication and tried to describe what it was like growing up and being gay in rural Kentucky. Becauuse I was young and naive and having not, as far as I knew, met another gay person, I did not imagine that someone living in the same county as I would have had a subscription to the same NYC gay publication. I allowed them to publish my name and address in the Letters to The Editors because I wanted to receive mail. Someone that my mother worked with showed her the letter, the first knowledge or confirmation that my mother had that I was gay. Of all the things that transpired during my coming out, and of all the things that went between my mother and I, I have always regretted that the most. My mother was a loving and compassionate person and she did not deserve that. Once she confronted me with the letter, I asked her who had showed it to her and she refused to tell me. I told her that she should never tell me because I would kill him. She never did. Years later I apologized to her for her having found out the way she did. Yes, I should have handled it differently at the time, but I was 17 and had not yet gathered the self-esteem and courage to tell her. The person who showed her the letter was an adult. He did so no doubt with all the "helping' attitude he could muster, whether out of ignorance or malice. I do know that his actions led to hurt to my mother and me. We repaired our relationship but it was painful.
Many years later, a long time friend decided that my partner of 11 years needed to know that I had cheated on him. She told him. He was hurt and distraught and angry and smashed up our house. We seperated. He got AIDS. He died seven years ago.
This is my advice to you young man. Doesn't matter what you think you're doing, GET A LIFE AND KEEP YOUR NOSE OUT OF OTHER PEOPLE'S BUSINESS!
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Animals 'R Us
[Read the article: The practical ethicist]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Jeffrey Koetje, M.D.: Why are so many people so threatened by the mere suggestion that the Life that permeates all living things obligates us to act ethically, kindly, tenderly in our interactions with each other and with the natural world which is our home and family?
Guilt over all the lip service we pay to being the high-minded, "moral" humans as we go on acting, as a species, in many instances worse than, or at most little different than, the animals we proclaim ourselves to be superior to.
Krzmarzick: boy=rat?
Hmmm, did you read the same article the rest of us did?
Xanthro: chicken behavior is cruel?.
Nowhere near as cruel as ours. It isn't about chicken behavior. It's about ours.
Euaell Gibbons: justify beastiality?
He was trying to explain it, not justify it.