That is someone who knows her stuff. Absolutely the best advice here. Give that gal a red star!

I also escaped a physically abusive relationship and ran straight into the arms of someone who was "everything my ex was not." How I wish I'd been told--like you have been--that he would be a whole different kind of abusive. Then perhaps my life would not have been turned completely upside-down. Of course that didn't stop me from getting involved with another one... but now I can honestly say those days are over for me. No more scorpion stings for this lady.

He's told you all you need to know. Yes, people can change. But my gut tells me that this guy is a manipulator. His "confession" is designed to make you think he's honest, so you think "he's told me this huge, horrible truth about himself... so I know I can trust him not to lie." I wouldn't be surprised if it wasn't even true.

You know in your heart that there is enough wrong with this picture to make you sprint for the door. But you're caught up in the hope and romance of "what if?" Most of us have been there. And very few of us can say it ended well, and without significant cost.

I know what you're going to do. It's pretty obvious. I just hope for your sake that you don't lose too much, and you don't make the same decision next time. Because there WILL BE a next time. Good luck to you.

"The picture is so densely packed with meticulously sharpened one-liners and zigzagging, freestyle pop-culture references that its cleverness is exhausting at first: I couldn't tell if the gags and jokes were going to serve the story or mow it down."

God help us, not another "Gilmore Girls." I can't go see this movie unless I can scream "for the love of all that's holy, will you shut the f**k UP already?" grab for my remote and press "mute." So I guess I'll wait until it's on cable.

I just hate all that contrived, pseudo-spontaneous, "hip" babble that passes for film and TV dialogue these days. It's so much more annoying than entertaining or clever. If you're not a teenager or painfully droll/ironic (yawn) hipster, anyway.

As for the abortion thing in movies and TV, whenever a character is in a situation where abortion would make the most sense, she always seems to have a miscarriage. This way they can milk the pregnancy drama AND leave the character *appropriately* childless without giving the righties something else to boycott and demand the cancellation of. And that's ALWAYS job one.

A white, apparently American terrorist. Suicide bomber, even (although the bomb is no doubt fake). But I thought all terrorists were Muslims!? Where on earth did I get that obviously mistaken notion?

I think maybe it's time for some racial profiling!!! I want to see all 40-ish American white males spied on, grilled and detained from now on. After all, wasn't that the standard terrorist "profile" in this country before 9/11? Why yes, I do believe it was. However, I don't remember any racial profiling back then. Because they were just "crazies." Not terrorists. Muslims are terrorists.

Some people need to remember what terrorism actually is. It is NOT a synonym for "Islam." It is what you're looking at in NH today, and what you saw in Oklahoma City. It's the Unabomber, it's Eric Rudolph, it's abortion-clinic bombers. It's disgruntled employees holding their colleagues hostage. It's Columbine, and it's the IRA. It's the use of violence to get your point across. And it knows no race or religion.

Love the quote from Chad Stoller. What a moron.

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/11/30/technology/30face.html?_r=1&oref=slogin

I've been listening to this tale of adultery and intrigue, and wondering if I'm the only one who doesn't care where Rudy lifted his plow... and also figuring that yeah, wherever he went, he was fully entitled to a security detail. Staunch Democrat that I am, I fail to see the big deal here.

But the other thing? Geez Louise. I've been shocked at just how little attention has been paid to it, although knowing how much more important sex is than anything else in American politics, I really shouldn't be.

The bottom line? I don't care who Rudy Giuliani gets in bed with. Unless it's al Qaeda.