Where is it written that everyone is required to publicly announce their sexual orientation? Why is this guy so obsessed with it?

No one, celebrity or not, deserves to have their private affairs "dragged out, kicking and screaming." Who is this sleazeball to decide when someone is ready to come out? It's a personal decision, not that of a total stranger obviously obsessed with homosexuality. What's next? Forcibly impregnating women he feels "should have a friggin' baby already"?

He needs to stop. He is not the arbiter of everyone's lives; the man in charge of making sure gay people follow his own personal timetable. He's out, good for him. That doesn't give him the right to make that decision for other people... especially people he doesn't know. Even if he DOES know them, it's wrong. If he wants to insist that, say, his closeted lover either come out or it's over... that's fine. He has the right to leave, but not the right to out the lover.

The one caveat I do have to my opinion is if the closeted person in question publicly denigrates gay people or works to harm them in any way just to cover his own homosexuality. Then this hypocrisy should probably be exposed.

He's just a nasty, uncouth lout with an insatiable need for attention who invades people's privacy for a living. Every time he outs someone or suggests that they're a "fag," he sends the message that homosexuality is a shameful secret to be forcibly exposed and the person ridiculed. You don't have to be straight to be a gay-basher.

The guys who get freaked out over their girlfriend in a threesome are the same guys who are disgusted by the idea of male homosexuality, but would happily pay to watch female homosexuals getting it on. In other words, hypocrites who think that anything that doesn't personally turn THEM on is "sick," but whatever they dig is fine. Sex is "sacred" but that lap dance at the bachelor party was just a guy thing, honey... you know it didn't mean anything!

LW, you deserve better than someone who looks down on you and judges you harshly. It is NEVER going to change. It will just get uglier and uglier between you. I know what it's like to let the memories of when you were happy together override what the relationship has become. You hold out, hoping that one day you can magically get back to the way it was. You can't. It is what it is now, and happiness with him is behind you. His view of you has turned sour, and if you stay together he will continue to punish you by making you feel inferior. You'll be forever apologizing and trying to get back in his good graces.

I'm sorry to be so blunt and so negative, but sometimes reality is unpleasant. Sometimes things DON'T work out, and when your boyfriend no longer likes you and doesn't have a kind word or thought for you, you have to accept that it's over. His love was conditional. You've done nothing wrong... you and he are just not compatible.

And as you can obviously see the importance of judging someone on the present instead of the past, you must do it yourself as well. Judge this relationship for what it is, not what it was. Because that relationship no longer exists. I'm sorry.

Cut the "typical feminist anger" crap. It's really getting old. The woman is being emotionally abused and disrespected. You don't have to be an "angry feminist" to see that. Why is it whenever the man is in the wrong and a woman points that out, all you neanderthals crawl out of your caves to say we're all angry feminists? As if the guy isn't really wrong, we just think he is because we hate all men. That's YOUR issue, dude. Don't dump it on me. I love YOUR typical misdirected macho anger. I don't hate men at all. I DO hate a**hole men, though.

As for your other question, what's hypocritical is saying homosexuality is sick, depraved, disgusting and wrong... but still lovin' you some girl-on-girl. Same-sex is same-sex. You can't say male homosexuality is disgusting and female homosexuality is hot. THAT is hypocritical. Either homosexuality is wrong or it's not. Pick a lane.

These are the guys who feel SHE shouldn't be in a threesome because it's disgusting, but wouldn't say no to a threesome themselves. In other words, hypocrites.

You can defend this jerk all you want, and insult the rest of us in the process. I hope you never have a daughter, if your default setting is "any woman who thinks a man is wrong about something is a psycho feminist dyke." Because if she ever comes to you and says "daddy, he hurt me..." you'll probably tell her to put down the protest sign, shave her pits and be thankful a man wants her at all. Ugh.

Biiiiiiig difference between one threesome and "an orgy phase." Really bad analogy. The girl did something ONCE. She's not an addict.

It's not the fact that the BF doesn't like threesomes that makes him a jerk. It's his systematic devaluation of his GF. Rather than keeping her around and treating her badly if he has a problem with her "morality," he should just be straight with her that he'll never be able to see her the same way again and let her go. Stop sadistically stringing her along and punishing her for being a whore (his opinion, not mine). THAT's the jerk part.