Firstly, a note to Cary: I liked your response overall, but I do take issue when you write something like "how men feel" It feels limiting to men and women for different reasons. As a woman, I too share some of these feelings.

Secondly, my thought is that the LW might've unconsciously felt that he still had his wife (soon to be ex) in his backpocket and might've been enjoying the security that comes with that. I'm wondering if the LW's head and heart aren't in alignment - intellectually, he's fine with the separation but his heart hasn't yet caught up and now that his wife appears to be moving on, his heart is caught by surprise.

I do admire both the LW and his wife for trying to resolve this amicably. Sometimes, it appears easier in the short run to just cut off ties.

You're the best, I swear. I wish you were running McCain's campaign - or perhaps you are, in which case I rejoice even more. See Elephantman, I'm grateful to people like yourself because even though you're not likely to vote for a Dem, you help more more Dems in office. Consider the last 8 years a success, ignore the will of the people and don't pay attention to polls (just like Dick Cheney) and mostly ignore the heck of an economy that is going down the crapper and before you know it, you got a thumpin' on your hands. Please spread your gospel far and yonder.

What a load of hogwash Kamiya presents. The fact that China was selected to host, digusts me. There's nothing that says "way to go" to an oppressive regime, like rewarding them. But let's also remember that China (but not only China) owns our a**. We are so beholden to China and our heads are so far up China's a** that it's no wonder we cave and don't hold China's feet to the fire when it comes to human rights. Billions and billions are spent on pre, during and post-Olympic events and then we cry about the food shortage crisis. Gandhi was spot on when someone asked him what he thought of Western civilization and he replied "I think it would be a great idea."

thank you for your posting! My father is constantly anxious and when there isn't something in his life about which to be anxious, he creates scenarios. He invests heavily in the stock market and if the market is up, he worries about the imminent crash. He too watches Fox News all day (he's retired)and I'd never made the connection between Fox and his anxiety, but I think you absolutely have a point.

I wonder how funny it will be for Mr. Kamiya if John McCain won the presidency. A real chuckle, eh? We Dems really know how to stick it to ourselves. Thanks New Yorker for doing the work of Fox News.

I'm sitting here, at my desk at home, with my arms caked in baking soda. Why? Because I have a really, really bad case of poison ivy. I gave up a really well paying, but miserable job to follow my dream of owning my own organic gardening business and I love it even more than I ever thought, in spite of the poison ivy. No job is worth giving up what you already have. So many people would give anything to have what you have (minus the request to move) Hopefully your boss will respect your decision (assuming you decline the move) and if he/she doesn't and/or isn't able to understand your decision, they don't deserve someone like yourself. It sounds as though you have a great quality of life, as do your dogs, and in the end that's what's important.

that George and Barbara Bush didn't follow the abstinence program.

that anyone actually expects Fox News to apologize. WTF? Fox News has to come up with some kind of gimmick, a cheap shot, if you will, to boost its viewership. Instead of Fair and Balanced, how about a new slogan ... Farce and Malice?

I dated a woman who really wanted kids and she wanted me to bear them. I've never wanted kids. I didn't do the gagging thing because I felt that it would be dismissive of something she desperately wanted and I also didn't think that joking about having or not having kids was very funny, at least not given the seriousness of the issue for her. Even when we didn't talk about it, there was always something hanging in the air, like the humidity index in Northern Virginia right now. I felt relief when she broke up with me - she met someone with whom she could have a family and I met someone who didn't have a strong need for kids. As hard as it might be, you and your boyfriend are better off going separate ways and there's a good chance if you end things now you might end them amicably enough to salvage a friendship. Good luck.

I am so grateful that there are people such as yourselves. I believe that witnessing the suffering of any sentient being, is painful and heartbreaking, but also an opportunity for us to become more compassionate beings.

Please don't jeopardize your studies - we need people like you to help us take care of our small animals. I would also urge you to consider becoming a holistic vet and to challenge conventional veterinary medicine, especially with regard to over-vaccinations, and the pet food industry. I've been extremely fortunate to find a holistic vet.

I hope that you're able to find a compromise - not of your values, but a way to get through your rotation ("this too shall pass"). Best of luck.