Sounds your husband is a Type-A (similar to my partner, except my partner doesn't critize me) and I'm much more laid back which in my case means I'm not competitive. I'm into gardening and wildlife, so when we go for a walk in the woods close to our house, my partner power walks or runs ahead while I look at plants, trying to remember their latin names (Oh, did I mention I'm a geek too?) We vacation together as well as separately, so we both get what we need. The worst vacation we ever had was a rafting trip down the Colorado River - she wanted to go into the rapids and I realized that not only am I'm not an atheist, but I'd rather be at the local botanical museum. I hope you find a solution that works for both of you.

How ironic that the Democratic Party (and yes, I'm a registered Dem) which claims to be classless and to stand for fairness and justice for all, would have "superdelegates" in a class of their own.

Note to DNC: Obama has won the popular vote for the Dem nomination, but if he is passed up, in favor of Hillary, I will be voting for Ralph Nader.

Whenever I hear someone describe themselves in those terms ("enlightened", "evolved") I back up and check my wallet. To be self-actualized at the age of 40? Please. I feel that the LW has confused his accomplishments with self-actualization. I don't believe they are the same. I tried to put myself in the LW's wife's shoes and to imagine what it must feel like to have someone in my life who feels he/she is self-actualized,and it would be hard to feel vulnerable.

To me, the LW's dilemma presents the classic example of why sexuality, religion and other sensitive issues like abortion, are not political, or rather, why they should not be brought into the political arena. My guess is that if the LW came out to his church, he might very well pay a price, but I would encourage him to focus instead on the fact that he has been blessed with a sense of wholeness - although I identify as a lesbian, I personally feel that bisexuality represents a more whole human being - someone who is more aware of the aspects of himself/herself that make him/her a fuller human being, regardless of whether the LW chooses to act on his attraction to men. I wish the LW luck and hope that he is able to integrate his attraction to men into his life without harming his relationship with his wife and kids.

I am so grateful that there are people such as yourselves. I believe that witnessing the suffering of any sentient being, is painful and heartbreaking, but also an opportunity for us to become more compassionate beings.

Please don't jeopardize your studies - we need people like you to help us take care of our small animals. I would also urge you to consider becoming a holistic vet and to challenge conventional veterinary medicine, especially with regard to over-vaccinations, and the pet food industry. I've been extremely fortunate to find a holistic vet.

I hope that you're able to find a compromise - not of your values, but a way to get through your rotation ("this too shall pass"). Best of luck.

I dated a woman who really wanted kids and she wanted me to bear them. I've never wanted kids. I didn't do the gagging thing because I felt that it would be dismissive of something she desperately wanted and I also didn't think that joking about having or not having kids was very funny, at least not given the seriousness of the issue for her. Even when we didn't talk about it, there was always something hanging in the air, like the humidity index in Northern Virginia right now. I felt relief when she broke up with me - she met someone with whom she could have a family and I met someone who didn't have a strong need for kids. As hard as it might be, you and your boyfriend are better off going separate ways and there's a good chance if you end things now you might end them amicably enough to salvage a friendship. Good luck.

that anyone actually expects Fox News to apologize. WTF? Fox News has to come up with some kind of gimmick, a cheap shot, if you will, to boost its viewership. Instead of Fair and Balanced, how about a new slogan ... Farce and Malice?

that George and Barbara Bush didn't follow the abstinence program.

I'm sitting here, at my desk at home, with my arms caked in baking soda. Why? Because I have a really, really bad case of poison ivy. I gave up a really well paying, but miserable job to follow my dream of owning my own organic gardening business and I love it even more than I ever thought, in spite of the poison ivy. No job is worth giving up what you already have. So many people would give anything to have what you have (minus the request to move) Hopefully your boss will respect your decision (assuming you decline the move) and if he/she doesn't and/or isn't able to understand your decision, they don't deserve someone like yourself. It sounds as though you have a great quality of life, as do your dogs, and in the end that's what's important.

I wonder how funny it will be for Mr. Kamiya if John McCain won the presidency. A real chuckle, eh? We Dems really know how to stick it to ourselves. Thanks New Yorker for doing the work of Fox News.