Letters to the Editor
wire0monkey
Published Letters: 129 Editor's Choice: 4
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Yay for extended family!
[Read the article: Do I have to be a mommy to "opt out"?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Bless you, bless you, bless you.
My brother helps me with my kids. I am so grateful for it. It's not just the practical part -- the occasional babysitting or distracting play while I cook dinner. It's that they have another adult in their lives that they can turn to if they have a problem. It's that my brother loves them and all kids need more people to love them.
But how are you going to pick between sisters and nieces/nephews?
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Just say "NO" to Alateen
[Read the article: Mom's a pothead]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Alateen is the worst possible idea in the entire world for this kid, or for any kid. Here's how Alateen works: Take a bunch of kids dealing with their parents alcoholism/addiction. They're already overwrought. Many of them have witnessed violence, were sexually abused, been through multiple divorces or break-ups, and have just had generally chaotic, shitty lives. Now put these messed up kids in a group with an untrained adult leader with no qualifications for group counseling. Many of these kids don't want to be there and are going because some adult, often the alcoholic parent, thinks it is now a good idea for the family to recover because it's "a family disease." Some of these kids are already using and well on their way to their own substance abuse problems.
Asking these kids to hang out together and "help" each other is like a perfect storm of fucked-upped teenage angst.
Alateen is a disaster. Don't do it.
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To all the Poly Hatas
[Read the article: A 19-year-old wants my husband]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]Re: advice from an anonymous slut.
I posted my advice. It's under the title "Say No."
Re: screaming insecurity. Actually, poly takes more security, not less. My husband has sex with other women and I don't worry about losing him. And while guys may fuck anything, I don't. I fuck a lot, but that doesn't mean I'll fuck anything. Conservatives, cops, Rush Limbaugh fans, and Christians are right out.
As far as BDSM being the province of the "sick..." Wow. You really don't get out much, do you?
Re: the drama. I don't have the drama. Really. High emotional stability is a primary factor in choosing poly partners.
Love,
Slut Pride
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re: anonymous slut
[Read the article: A 19-year-old wants my husband]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]And my hitting the "submit" button too fast, I am slightly less anonymous than before.
Whoops. ;P
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Get real
[Read the article: My married boyfriend's ditching me for Christmas]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]He's not that into you. You have a sweet relationship and good sex, but he isn't that serious about the relationship right now. If he were serious, he would make plans with you or take you with him to see the family. The fact that he didn't even think about what you're doing for Christmas means he's not that serious about you. He didn't think about Christmas because he doesn't think about *you.* He may get more serious in the future or he may not. Who can tell? If you're serious about him, you need to decide if you want to wait and see how it plays out or whether you want to cut your losses now.
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Time to go
[Read the article: Cops arrested my partner for felony heroin possession]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]You're not evil. You're not mean. You're done with this relationship. If you have the power to take your child and leave, then I would leave. Your child does not deserve to be stuck with this woman as the child's custodial parent. Even if she means well, it's going to take her some time to get her shit together enough to be a parent.
Trying to stay in a relationship with an addict out of duty, rather than love, is a recipe for disaster. It's not fair to her. It's not fair to you. Once some things are broken, they can't be fixed.
Be as kind as you can about the divorce, but get the divorce.
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Off-topic rant
[Read the article: Our new friend is a racist -- should we dump him?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]WTF?
I'm not so impressed with our own assumed air of virtue, we liberal coastal elites.
AND
In fact, I am rather drawn to the bad man, the racist, the reprobate, the criminal, the idiot, the one who doesn't get how he is supposed to behave.
Ummm... Cary, darling... this is all going on the east coast. The racist and the LW live on the east coast. WTF? If you wonder why people are annoyed by "liberal coastal elites," it's because of stuff like this. You seem to be assuming that "liberal coastal elite" = "non-racist" and "the rest of the country" (ie. the Midwest, the Great Plains, the South, and the Southwest) = great unwashed. Quit it. The coasts are a mix. The rest of the country is a mix. Until y'all stop talking to us like we're idiots, you're never going to get the rest of the country to listen to your point of view.
The sad thing is, I think all y'all know that. You just can't help it.
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On-topic suggestion
[Read the article: Our new friend is a racist -- should we dump him?]
[Read more letters about this article: Here]LW,
I work in a very white, conservative moderately racist office. (law office). When people in my office come up with this stuff, I argue with them about it. I don't drop my relationship with them. I argue with them about it. I don't know that it works, but I don't feel complicit and maybe they rethink their position just a little.
Of course, this also causes them to say outrageous things at times because they know that they will get a rise out of me. "Bait the liberal" is good for hours of lunch-time entertainment.
Ah, well.